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No friends..Always at Home & on the Computer..
16-female.
i always feel like such a geek. i'll admitt it i dont have THAT many friends but i have my few close ones. but most of them are a year younger than me. and on of my best friends or the one i hangout with alot is my cousin -she turns 16 in october. sometimes i feel embarassed that my cousin is one of my best friends and she doesnt have many friends either? i mean in like 9th grade i would hangout with so many different people and i would never be home and now im going into 11th and i dont hangout with many people especially from my school. i hangout with everyone from a different school (my cousins school) and they're all a year younger than me. my brother is always like wow your a freak what are you and nikki doing today (my cousin) and im like i dont know why? and hes like i dont know your always with her because she is your only friend. me and my cousin go over to her house and sit on the computer or watch tv most of the time which is BORING. but we dont have much money (thats why im finding a job) and we never know what to do! and we have this wedding coming up and my brother he is 19 is going out with this almost 18 year old girl and she is going with him and my brother is like is kristen (me) bringing a guy? and my mom is like i dont know she never goes anywhere...i was like ohh great even my mom tells me i dont go out and dont have any friends. its not like i want it to be that way! i mean i have other friends in school that i talk to IN SCHOOL but i never hangout with them out of school. ive never had a boyfriend but everyone is always in complete shock when they hear that because they all think im so gorgeous (i dont see it though) i dont hangout with any guys really either except maybe like 2 that are a year younger than me and are my cousins friends. im not going to get into any clubs or sports because im going to get a job soon and i want to focus on doing good in school too! and last night my brother and his girlfriend went out to eat with a bunch of people i guess and this girl from my grade was there and she is going out with someone my brothers age. i mean this girl was on my softball team a couple years and i talked to her here and there like a "hey" or something but she is the so-called popular one. and my brother is like i saw ashley yesterday and she asked what you were doing and i was like what did you say and he is like i said im not sure. and then i guess she is like ohh yeahh well she hangsout with all the younger people anyways. this really bothers me! what can i do? i want to be out all the time and just for once have my parents be like your always gone why dont you stay home for a couple hours like they do to my brother!..
any suggestions?
thanks so much.
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i know how you feel as well . thats howi am . im going into 9th grade right now . in 7th grade i had so many friends i loved it . then in 8th grade i lost alot of them . and i hang out with people older than me ! i do hang out with alot of guys that are the same age as me . but not rly any girls . but idk . i just try to become friends with them again ..
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You can't do nothing and expect results. Either be happy with your decision to be a homebody or get out there! Many people are in clubs and have a part-time job while in highschool. If it bothers you that you hang out with younger people than expand your circle to include others your age. If it does not bother you, then why do you care what other people say? Make up your mind to make new friends, or ignore the critics.
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alright.i know how u feel.really.i do. because i feel the same exact way. i used to have tons of friends.I wasnt the most popular girl but i wasnt a complete geek. But now that im getting older i have lost a few of my really close friends. I think what you need to do is just maybe hang out with some people that you never haave hung out with before.Try something new. YOu said that you wernt going ot be in any clubs or anything but maybe you should rethink that. You really can make a lot of friends that way and it would look really good on your college applicaion. Dont worry about hanging out with ppl that are younger then you. Tons of people do.But on the other hand, i would try and make friends with people in youre own grade also. I dont know you so please dont take this the wrong way because i could be totally wrong but it sounds to me like maybe youre not very comfortalbe with yourself and beleive me, thats OK.many people are not comfortalbe with themselves but we all just have to try our best to just put ourselves out there and dont always be afriad of what other people are going to think because after high school none of this is even goin ot matter.really.its not. I can garuntee more people like you/would like more then you think. =]
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