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feeling bad
well me and my boyfriend have been dateing for 6 months im sure hes the one i want to spend forever with. But theres only one problem, i feel terrible all the time, i mean when we fight i always feel like its my fault,when he talks to other girls and i tell myself there just his friends it still makes me feel horrible,and even little things if like he doesnt say bye b4 hanging up the phone and i dont want this terrible feeling to go on. any advice on if this is normal, and how to fix it.
anything is apreciated
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think about the type of person he is. does he give you any reason to not trust him.when he talks is he just being friendly or is he flirting. if not then dont worry about it. your over thinking things wait until an actual problem arises to feel terrible. or you could turn into a control freak then youll really feel terrible because it will make people including him want to be around you a whole lot less.
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I have felt this way before with my boyfriends. I would worry about the stupidest little things and would sometimes accually not be able to sleep. Sometimes this can be serious and you might want to talk to someone about it. You might be suffering from terriable anexity or OCD. I have these both and it sounds to me like you might also. If it gets worse, dont be afraid to ask for more advice or ask to talk to a school conslcer. =]
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Of course it's normal. I'll put a lucky guess and say you are a teenager and you are in high school? How could I have possibly guessed? A lot more people than you think go through that. Don't set your mind on just this one guy, because [no offense], if things don't work out then it will be a lot harder to move on - I've seen it happen.
Anyways, you have to talk to him...like sit him down and talk to him about how you feel. You guys fight a lot, why is that? You feel like you are always guilty, how come? Talk these things out with him and get some feedback on his feelings. See if it really is worth going on in the relationship. Seriously, at your age you should not be going through so much stress. You should reconsider everything and if it seems like too much trouble you should call it off. So settle things with him, see how he feels and communicate - then go from there. If talking to him about it and asking him to do his part while you do yours does not give you results after maybe 2 months or so, call it off - you don't need the stress or trouble. Hope that helped and good luck.
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To me it's normal. He probably feels the same way at times. Everyone has a different level of insecurity and some more than others. You could always talk to him about it and maybe he would be more aware of your feelings. He probably doesn't even realize it, and maybe you over analyze the situation. But if it really makes you feel that bad you should talk to him, you don't deserve to feel like crap all the time because of little things he does.
=] Evy
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