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Losing a friend
I was dating a guy who joined the army, and he was scheduled to leave for basic training at the end of May or beginning of June. At the beginning of May, he started to ignore me. Wouldn't answer phone calls or anything. I had no idea what was going on, because I had seen him the night before he started to ignore me and everything was fine. This continued for about two weeks, until he finally answered one of my messages by breaking up with me. He was worried that it wouldn't work because he would be leaving for a long time after this year. He ignored me for another two weeks after that, and finally a few days before he left he let me know when he was leaving. I asked him if he would tell me when he was back, and he promised that he would.
I know from mutual friends that he is back, but he hasn't tried to contact me in any way. I don't know why, and I don't know if I should try to talk to him. I miss him so much it's almost unbearable, as a boyfriend, but even just as a friend and someone to talk to.
What should I do? I want him back in my life...
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He may be back only temporarily and is thinking he should wait until he is back for good, before starting things up again with you. Sometimes people distance themselves emotionally from people they care about to avoid hurt. You miss him as a friend, and maybe letting him know that it is okay with you to just be friends will take the pressure off both of you. He may miss you more than he is letting on, but you need to be prepared for the opposite. Is he wanting emails/letters from friends? The less demanding you are, the more open he may be in the future to pick things up where they left off. If he just is not interested in any contact, you need to accept that and move on. Sometimes guys are not able or willing to communicate clearly that they want to end something. They do speak loud and clear with their actions. If his actions are to continue to put you off and ignore you, then that is his way of saying goodbye.
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