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I GET YA but..
You dont know the whole story. You seem like you have great advice but im curious to see what you have to say if i give the whole story. My boyfrineds name is nick. Nick and i met two years ago and talked on aim very small chit hcat this year we started talking again and he asked to finally meet me. We met through myspac and yes i know isnt the safest thing. We began talking on the phone and thats where i really fell for him we would talk about just everything. 2 months passed and we wereboth commited we didnt know that the otehr wasnt dating but we didnt want to really declare ourselves a couple till we met. We met last week and so far we have met maybe about 6 times within two weeks. Since weve gotten to know eachotehr very well we really fell fast. Ive met his father and his moteher but with small chit chat. I also met his friend who now im told only made trhee comments of me "Shes hot" "Nice ass" and "You got lucky on myspace" so i dont think he hates me. im just not comfrotable hanging out with them yet. I dont make my boyfriend hang out with my friends yet. I mean come on we want to just be us for awhile. does this change anything? Or no not really lol
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No, not really.
It makes me a little less of a hard ass, because it means you haven't been officially 'dating' for two months, but I still stand by my advice.
I do really understand your feeling that you want to keep it 'just us'. It's a new relationship, it's fresh and fun being just the two of you, and hopefully it will continue to be fun being just the two of you.
But no relationship is an island. No two people, no matter how much in love, can exist in a vacuum. Other people are in this world. I'm not so much worried about you not knowing his friends, as I am upset by the fact you seem to not even want to consider knowing his friends, or him knowing yours. As much as you love it being the two of you, that just doesn't make sense! If you try desperately to change the topic of conversation if he even brings it up then that is just fear ruling you!
At the very least, be honest with your boyfriend about why you aren't keen to meet these people. Then he will know, he might even agree and decide to wait a while too.
But regardless, I hope you know that introducing your boy to friends doesn't mean an end to the two of you. You don't have to hang out in a big group of friends if you don't want too! You can tell your friends: "I'm so glad you met him, cause he is important to me, but most of the time I just like hanging out with my friends when I am with my friends, and my boyfriend when I'm with my boyfriend." And you can talk about the exact same thing with your boyfriend, so he knows you don't want to hang out with his friends all the time either.
Doing that is actually waaaay better then putting off the meeting. There is no real rush to meet everyone in his life. I'm sorry if I sort of sounded like there was. Your having met only a few weeks ago rather changes that, but I still think you shouldn't deliberately putting off the meeting people.
There will always be other people in your significant others life who will have a claim to his affections, be them family or friends, maybe someday children! You got to be cool with that. So stop working yourself up over this, and just let people met. It doesn't need to be a big ordeal or a special 'meet-and-greet' night, it can be low-key, just be open to letting it happen when it does.
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