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i need advice and some help
I feel like i have lost my self respect and my rights of my own body. Last night, i had a really bad experience, me and my 2 best friends got drunk. One of my friends was sober, and me and my other friend were very drunk. Late last night, me and the drunk friend decided to go outside, and when we passed by the bus stop, 2 men told pulled us to a field and they started doing things to us, no one was around to help us or to get them away from us. After about 20 minutes, my sober friend who was inside and not looking after us, came running outside to find the 2 men and me and my friend in the field. She yelled at the men, called me and my friend sluts and stuff, and then the men ran away. I dont know how to gain some self confidence back, i am hurt and tromautized by those men who took advatage of me and my best friend. I need something to make me feel better, but i don't trust anyone to tell them what happened. Even my sober friend does not know what they did to us. Advice please!
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maybe you can talk to your friend that was drunk to about it and think together of what you guys want to do this will help you relize that it wasn't your fault and maybe your friend is feeling the same way and needs someone to talk to like you do
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Jessica
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I'm sorry, everyone who has replied so far seems to have missed a very serious point here.
The fact is that you and your friend were sexually assaulted and although you may feel you have lost your self respect, you cannot make the situation worse by letting them get away with it. Partly because, as has already been said, you need justice for what they put you through but also because you need to prevent this from happening to other women. From the sounds of what happened, this is not the first time this has been done and you need to do something to help stop it.
You haven't said what it was they did to you but if they raped you, you also need to make sure that you have tests to ensure you have not contracted any infections or diseases as a result. If you were raped, their DNA could still be on your body and you need to speak to the police because you could help to catch them if this is the case.
Recovery from any sort of assault is difficult but sexual assault is always the worst kind. It's invasive, it's soul-destroying, it makes you feel dirty and ashamed, as though you have done something wrong. After you have been to the police about this (and PLEASE go to them immediately), they might recommend you for counselling. Something like this can bring on Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and it can make you terrified to do something as simple as leaving the house. Don't let yourself be a prisoner to your experience. I know it isn't easy but it might help to speak to someone like a counsellor, who can help you to overcome what happened.
Once you have done all you can to help catch the men who did this to you, you might find the whole ordeal easier to come to terms with. I cannot stress this enough, please, for your sake and the other women in the area where the attack occurred, don't let the incident go without report. Tell your parents, tell the police, tell anyone who might be in danger.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you and your friend. Stick with each other and help each other through this. You WILL get through it because you are stronger than you think. Good luck.
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Well, Just be glad you dont remember, My friend had something like that happen to her and she reliveds it every night. You have to relize what those men have done was wourg, and theres nothing you can do to take that back, But what you can do is make sure it never happens again! You cant trun back the clock but you know how to pervent that happening again. Whats done is done. And you you have self-respect, when you truely lose your self-respect is when you let this stuff happen again, and again. It happen to my friend 3 times b4 she learned. Just be glad it didnt trun out worst, You could be dead, or having a kid. Just put the past behide you and look to other drugs.
Heres some good sites for that,
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Some of the better drugs are lsa, Salvia Divinorum, and the happy caps are realy good.
And If you want I made a recipe for what i call the magic Blunt, You`ll see thing, and feel realy good, But i`ll take atleast 5 people to finsh it.
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Even though you were intoxicated, the men taking advantage of you is not your fault. What you need is closure...and that just may mean pressing charges on those jerks and maybe even telling your sober friend what happened. The other thing I can say is...if you are going to be drinking, make sure you won't get into trouble or get hurt. Be careful. Learn from your mistakes and know that what happened that night does not make you a slut, you were just not thinking and it is something you should avoid doing again.
I hope this helps even remotely. Good Luck.
-Teacup
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