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Asking someone out?! Long sorry-but im nervous and i ramble
I don’t ask guys out. They ask me out. Always. But this guy I like hasn’t made a move all summer. We see each other at camp where we both are counselors in training from like 8:45 till 12ish Monday through Friday. We usually talk from 9:00 until 9:15 or so and then later at like 1:00 for like 30 minutes. He is so funny… I think I love him, but I haven’t gone out with him yet, and I want to.
But he won’t make a move and ask me out! I was always told not to ask anyone out *or propose or have sex before marriage or curse or all these other things which I basically abide by*. But camp is over in 2 weeks and them I'm going away for 14 days. And then 2 more weeks of summer and then its like, “Where did the summer go!?”
So if anyone has like, a step-by-step process of asking someone out. Ha-ha. That sounds weird. But I mean, last time I tried to ask someone out, I managed their number and screen name. But he likes me as a friend as do I.
Should I ask him out through like AIM? I am really nervous about it. Today I was going to practice on my good friend Sam, but I couldn’t even… just for pretend.
This is long…. I’m sorry. But does anyone have a step-by-step process?!
Thanks so much!!
Oh, bty, Im 14/f. and hes 14/m. THANKS!
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Go up to him and say "You're a really nice guy. Do you think you'd want to go to the movies with me sometime?" Just remember to be casual about it. If he says no then just be like "Oh ok, maybe another time." Hope i helped!! <3
And good luck!!!
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If he doesen't make his move soon, go for it girl! Camp is almost over and you probably won't see him soon again. -Karlie
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Asking someone out is always hard. And I have heard that too, “let the guy ask you out.” But sometimes that doesn’t work. And you have to go for it!! So here is what I would do.
1) Reflect. Why do you like him? Is he funny? Caring? Nice? A jokester? Figuring out y you like him is always key!!
2) Walk over to him. No brainier!!
3) Get him talking and if he is a funny guy, get him to laugh or wait until you laugh… you are really happy near him.
4) Take a deep breath.
5) Go for it! Casually say, “do you want to go out sometime?”
6) Don’t expect a yes, because if he says no, then you might be heart broken. But as corny as this sounds, ‘there are plenty of fish in the sea.’ Pleanty of guys WORTHY of you!! so if this guy says no, just smile and say, ok! There might be an akward silence… but that will go away if you are friends.
7) Also… just FYI, I would make sure to ask him out so you are sure to see him the next day. So you can go up to him and talk to him like nothing happended. This will show him that you can overcome hard things and continue to be his friend. Or, if he has second thoughts, he can ask you out. I mean, when I asked out this guy, he said no. I went home and cried because I really wanted him! The next day at school, he came up to me and said like he was sorry and figured he should give his dating thing a chance.
haha. this has all been bad things. just in case he says no. But when he says yes, or if…. but u seem like a nice enough person…. I would probably say yes to you *if I wasn’t a girl…. or if I wasn’t dating a really good guy!* If he says yes, make sure to get a date in soon because you don’t want to “become boyfriend-girlfriend” and then have to leave the next day. I mean, he would be thinking “well, why am I going out with someone who is going to be gone for 2 weeks?!?!” So if he says yes, I’ll go out with you. Tell him you’ll call him later that night. And when you do, set up a date.
Hope this helps!!
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PS- make sure to tell your parents about him *if you go out with him*. Even if it’s weird. Because how are you going to be able to go out with him if you don’t have a care, or he does. Someone has to drive, and what would your excuse be? Hanging with my friend whos a guy? Eh, I don’t know. ‘specially cause you said you see him only in summer!
ok. this is the real end!!
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there is no rule that says you cant slip him your number. lol just tell him that you want to stay in touch and exchange the digits. and say something like hey lets hang out before the summer is over or give me a shout if you want to hang out or something and that way you still kinda have given him the leadway to ask you out. dont be scared girl, you are a female it should always be the other way around!
Girl power!
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