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boyfriend/trust/friends/blahh
okay well you see, my boyfriend told me that his parents are getting divorced because his best friends mom was hitting on his dad all the time and it was ticking my boyfriends mom off so she said she wanted a divorce. i promised him i would tell anyone and then one night when two of my best friends slept over they figured something was up so they asked me & i told them. some how now one of my best friend's sisters and all her friends know and i'm afraid because my boyfriend's best friend doens't know anything about their parents and stuff and i promised not to tell and now i'm afirad that some how he is gonna find out that almost everyone knows and he is gonna think it was me who ktold & ididn't and he's broken up with me a couple times before for stupid reasons and this is big and i'm scared he is gonna do it again and he is gonna gget in trouble with his parents for telling me. and i have know clue what to do or say or what. i just don't want to make the situation worse.please help me out here :'(
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First of all, you said "he is gona think it was me who told and I didn't." The fact of the matter is you DID tell some people about. (Unless I read the explanation wrong.)
Secondly, it is true that you shouldn't have told your friends. If you wanted to talk about the situation some more, you probably should have talked to your boyfriend about it, or at least not given your friends too many details. Just for future reference.
However, you did tell them, and the word is out. Now what do you do? You may not like this answer, but...you just have to own up to it. You have to be the bigger person and confess and apologize. Your boyfriend will probably be pretty angry with you and not trust you. I couldn't really blame him, some things are just kind of confidential and don't need to be repeated. You'll just have to make it up to him by apologizing and show him that he really can trust you...this was a huge step backwards in the relationship, and it'll take some time to gain a full level of trust back.
Though I also do not think if he is a good guy that he would break up with you for doing this...it was a mistake, but I believe everything can be forgiven. Which brings me to another point: if he has broken up with you so many times for "stupid reasons" then perhaps you should re-evaluate the relationship altogether. It might not be working out.
That was long, and I hope it helped a little. Sorry I was a little unsupportive, but I'm very very big on trust. If you want more help or want to talk things out (I promise I'll be more compassionate, lol) you can IM me sometime at BittersweetRain4.
Good luck!
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