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What can I do?
Hey you answered this question for me:
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and you gave great advice, but I wasn't much before him, I wasnt happy. I had a few friends but not alot. He made me so happy you know. We talked about being together forever and I know its sounds corny but we ment it. He just gets deffensive really quickly, or upset quick. I know he has a bad temper and I accept it but he has never screamed at me like that, I was so shocked. It really got me worried, not about our relationship but him. You have no idea how much he means to me. I broke up with him once before for a silly reason, it was along time ago. But I called right back we talked out the problem and then we got back together. Everyone knew we were together and they thought we were the perfect couple. I thought we were too. How can I stay distant from someone who has been my life. I feel like I have nothing left, like a huge chunk of me has been lost. And still instead of worrying about myself I am here worried about how he is how he feels when he will call. Its crazy how someone can break your heart and you still love them with all the tiny pieces you have left of it.
Please help me, I want him back, and if I really cant I know I will never be with another guy. I am not over reacting. He really was my everything, we both lost or virginity to eachother. He was always there for me. I helped him through some of the hardest times he has gone threw and now this happens. It doesnt make any sense. I should just become a nun. The hottest, smartest, nicest guy in the world could ask me out and I would say no. If I were to kiss a guy now I would still feel like I am cheating, I know that doesnt make sense but yea. He really is my everything there has to be something I can do! Instead of just waiting. Waiting is so horrible its the worst torture anyone can put you through! Knowing something is wrong and theres nothing you can do but wait.
Please help, what do I do?
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Yeah honey I honestly know exactly what you mean. If it's the not knowing part that's getting to you then i guess you've nothing to lose by talking to him if you can be strong enough to say that you love him with all your heart and care so much about his happiness BUT you won't be treated like that.
Try calling him but only to arrange to meet on neutral turf- don't do this discussion over the phone, it's so much harder to read someone just by talk and things get misinterpreted. When you do actually sit and talk about this leave the getting back together issue aside as best you can and just try to get some answers about the root of this problem, what it was that made him fly off the handle and ask him to be specific. I'm guessing this screaming fit has been building up for a while and didn't just come on at this one thing if he's any kind of rational being. Only once you've got to the bottom of it can you guys really decide if it's possible or helpful to carry on with your relationship. I know it's hard but try thinking about it as rationally as possible. You may adore him but can you genuinely make it work with him so you're both happy and secure?
Even having said all this and whether you get back together or not I still say you should try to get to know yourself a bitand learn how capable you are by yourself even if only because relationships work best when you know you'd be ok even if it fell apart. That way you're making a choice to be with the person rather than simply not knowing how to be any other way.
And if your relationship does end here i promise you really will be ok and that when you're ready you will be able to love someone else.
Let me know how it goes x
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