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hello!
ok so from what ive read, you give some great and honest advice. which is very hard to find in a person. so i was hoping you would help me with my problem : )
ok well, for some odd reason when it comes to my boyfriend I get REALY REALLY jealous. I never was a jealous person until I fell in love with him. We've been going out for about 1 year and 2 months now. I know he gets really jealous too but I get more jealous. Even when he is talking to one of my friends about me I always have this thought in the back of my head saying "omg! what if he likes her or she likes him!?!" its horible! I dont WANT to be jealous but I am. When we first started dating me, him, and my friend Noelle were all in a chat room on aim together and keep in mind that Noelle and jacob(my bf) went out before. but anyways we were in the chat room and I KNOW that they were joking but Noelle kept saying "Oh Jacob why dont you come over sexy!" and other stuff that I would rather not say. and he was going along with it and everything! While I WAS THERE! I was pissed and I told him that and he said sorry. but to this day its hard to trust him with girls. It gets really hard...but these are my questions...
1) do you have any ideas to get over my jealousy?
2) Do you think I should trust him still?
3) do you know anyways to trust someone better?
PLEASE ANSWER THIS! PLEASE! I really need help! thank you so much! I swear Ill put in feedback and ill rate!
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ok, in my experience, we have many voices in our head; among them are the voices of emotion and logic. I feel that jealousy occurs cause your emotional side takes influence of your logical side. Keeping a level head will help with the jealousy. Of course most people feel this jealousy, but using better judgement and trust will help. Sometimes the possiblities scare people, especially when the possibility is of cheating which is more likely than anything. To release some jealousy just remind yourself that you have no control over him but you would never cheat on him so you will always have a guilt free conscience.
Of course you should still trust him. Just make sure you have a soft pillow to land on if you were to be let down. Guys like to poke fun at their girlfriends and whatnot. What your guy did was possibly an example of that. Be careful though, you need to realize if he gets you too high, you can fall so build a soft ground for yourself to land. For women, icecream seems to work well.
Takeing an overwhelmingly positive outlook on life will help with all those problems. Dont react without thinking. Rationalize and be proactive(react in positive manors).
If you are one of those materialistic sticklers who dont think they can handle just that, do this:
when your starting to feel jealous, think "just relax."
Everyone has emotions -- they are like little voices -- however, not all of us choose to hear or listen to those voices.
If you have anyother questions feel free to ask, or if I didnt answer this one quite right, ask your question in a different mannor. Sorry for the length and how long it has taken me to respond-- my last few days have been eventful.
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