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boyfriend touchy feely with other girls
My boyfriend is for the most part amazing. We have been such good friends for so long and this year we started going out. The only problem is that he's a touchy feely kind of person....he always was and I knew that going in but now that we're dating I find that it bothers me more than it used to. If we're out with a group of friends he'll play with another girl's hair for example or give her a hug. It's not that he's not caring towards me because he is, it's just that it bothers me. When I told him how I felt he seemed surprised and said that he didn't know that he was doing anything wrong and that it meant nothing. This has been going on for a while though and other girls have commented to me that they would be mad too. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? He also said that it's just a part of his personality....
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No. You aren't making a big deal out of nothing. This is definately something. I know you said you talked to him about it but ask him if he could try his best to try and downplay his "personality", reiterate to him that it hurts you. He'll try and change his ways if he cares about you. Also, "personality" is a weak accuse. All I can say is try and talk to him about it again- seriously. One question is though - do you trust him? If you do, then it could be that you just don't trust other people with him, which is completely understandable. If you don't trust him however, there is a problem. Try and talk to him about it again. Really get into the details this time. Tell him what you think would help, like with things he can do and stuff. I have faith that he will respect you enough to try and downplay some of his ways. Tell him that you two are in a relationship and that, though possibly harmless, it's a bit unnerving. Ask him to take all that touchy feely stuff out on you ;) haha if you want. You have the complete and understandable and reasonable right to be worried about this. So don't worry, you're not overexagerating. I hope that I helped and that this makes sense hehe and let me know how it goes! Good luck! -GC07
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