|
humorist-workshop
followup to question about his ex
Hey, thanks again for the wonderful help you gave me. I've just been thinking about what would be the correct way to confront him about what his ex said. Like, I was thinking I should tell him that the "guy" told me. I thought I'd just say some guy added me saying he was a friend of him and his ex and started telling me what his ex has said. There's been quite a few people who tried to screw up with our relationship in the past, so he will think its them. Or just one of his enemies trying to interfere in our relationship. But he'll have to fess up the information anyway.
What do you think? What would be the proper way to do this? I just can't bring myself to tell him it was me who did it.
Again, thank you for reading and keep up the awesome advice.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Your welcome, I'm glad that I could help you!
Now, this isn't an answer you're looking for, but I would appreciate it if you read through it and give it some thought.
But, as it hard it as sounds, I think you have to confront him with the truth. You both have a lot to confess in this relationship. There is a lot of dishonesty going on and I can promise you that you'll feel better that he knows the truth rather than something you made up. Maybe you won't feel relieved or that good when you actually start to tell him, but I think we both know that it's the right thing to do.
You just need to say, "Josh, there is a lot going on in our relationship and I think it's time for me to own up to my part. I've found out that you've been talking to your Ex-girlfriend, and I found this out because I saw her E-mail on your computer and was very curious. So I made a fake account and found out who she was. She told me more than I needed to know and I fully understand now that it was wrong, but at the same time, I feel betrayed because you never really told me that you've been having deep conversations with another girl. You may want to break-up with me or end the relationship, but I think there's too much we don't know about each other that needs to be cleared up"
Besides, remember when I told you that I have a strong feeling that he's not over her? Well, whether you tell the truth or not, I think you need to give him more space to get over this girl since she did state that the only reason they broke up was because of long distance and I can't help but believe that statement since we both know for a fact that he's having these conversations that shouldn't be happening with her.
Listen: My suggestion would be that if you really believe that you can work things out with this guy, then I really think you're safer telling the truth. But that is all in your power and decision. If you are going to go your different ways, then I really don't think it matters what you tell him. The truth is that you really can bring yourself to tell him it was you, fear is what's stopping you. You'll feel a lot better if you have a clean and fresh start in your relationship if you do continue it.
Don't be afraid to ask me more or keep me updated, I know this wasn't the answer you were wanting, but I really tried! Thank you. Oh and make sure you always remind me yor original question you asked me because it never tells me who the asker is!
-TheTeenGirl
]
More Questions: |