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love cyclone!!! (were do i go from here)
sorry its a lil long....
Im 16/f and my friend is 15/m...we live quite a few citys apart...we've been freinds since 1999...the both of us do a great deal of flirting with one another...
A few years ago i realized that i was in love with my friend.But beacaus i did'nt want to ruin the freindship i tried to ignor these fealings. This year i decided that i could'nt bear it any more and i was ready to tell him the way i feel.
Then the night i had planed to tell him, he started asking me about my friend (lets call her 17/f.) I then knew that i had to tell him right then and there or i could really miss out, so i did. His reaction was a lil stuned, but he said something on the lines of him knowing.
The thing is i talked to him and he said that he had once liked me but the feeling had just left, or something like that. But the fact that not one of us spoke about us liking each other until i spoke that day...and i feel so stupid...not for bringin it up but not saying sooner...
PROBLEM:
He seams to realy like my freind 17/f... and i want hi to be happy... its just i love him! and ive told him more ever since i had that one time yet all he says is im sorry...
Yet ever since i told him our conversations have been more intence with the whole imotional side and i think its made our freindship stronger. I can tell him almost anything and vise versa...
The whole thing has accturaly realy bumed me out though... i find myself crying every time i have a good regular convo with him or here someone say his name... and i get quite jelous of my freinds 17/f... i dont wanna be... i like her its just i find meslef getting all mad for nothing...
My question is were do i go from here? I love this guy so much...yet the feeling dos'nt seem to return...I cant possibly give up... what do i do about 17/f? she like 15/m too, but she only met him last month not even... i think i realyy messed up...
any advice will be greatfully apreciated even oppinions!
Thankz a bunch! <3 <3
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You dont have to give up and you shouldn't. Of what you say about this guy it doesnt sound like he is going anywhere. yes maybe you did wait a little while to tell him that you love him but that shouldnt change anything. And either should 17/f. It hurts you knowing that he likes your friend. You need to hang out with your guy friend. You need to find a way to get this guy drawn to you. You've known him for 7 years you know what he likes. Bring him out somewhere that he enjoys. Or even the both of you enjoy. Hwere you can spend time together. He will see what he is missing out on. Just show him a good time. There is no wrong in telling your best friend that you love him.
You should talked to 17/f about your feeling for your best friend. If shes a good friend she will not get involved with this guy. I know it sounds rude but friends usually don't go for the guy their friend loves.
Other then SHowing this guy a amazing time and what kinda girl you really are. And just him knowing that he is hanging out with a girl that is completely in love with him should make him smile when he is with you.
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Hi, one of the lets say "buggers" of life is when someone likes somebody else but then you find that another person likes that somebody too. You've done the first part which is tell him how you feel about him. Thats great. The second part would be to ask him to go out with you, on a date. If that works out then you can build on your relationship with him. Try to be friends still to your 17/f but just be a little more for yourself. Remember this:
1. You have the right to date who ever you want.
2. You have a life, so date only if you feel comfortable.
3. Be yourself, thats all you can be.
However, no matter how much you try to build this relationship with this guy, at the end of the day it's HIS CHOICE who he goes out with. 17/f or YOU. Ask him out if you feel comfortable, what have you got to loose. You can still be friends. Just do what your heart tells you to do. Go girl! Daniel.
Let me know how you get on.
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