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ex boyfriend falling for my best friend
Well, i dont know how to start this all out because there has been so many issues with this kid so i'll just start two years ago when i met him. it was junior high and we "went out" with boys then. he was really cute and probably top five in the school, things were great then. he noticed me a lot, and paid more attention to me than the rest of the girls. things led to other things and we dated a few months later, but we both decided to break it off only a few months later because we couldnt exactly see eachother so much being so young and he was moving up to the "big" highschool while i stayed at junior high with my "little" friends. we still talked every night, he called me when he needed someone to talk to which was a lot. we snuck out and saw eachother almost every weekend. then things werent like they use to be and we drank together and shit like that. nothing i should have been doing.. but that led to other things like sex. he was the first for me and i was the first for him. this was a big jump for me, and made me a lot more attached to him. i dont look at any other guys like i look at him. his personality is awsome and hes also only a sophmore and hes hitting top 5 in high school which should mean something. hes a jock, and i dont know why i fall for those kinds of people, but its always the kind that dont pay attention to me. i feel like if i dont have to compete for the boy, its no fun and i get bored. im weird i guess. but when i came to high school, he paid less attention to me everyday because my parents told him to stay away from me (she found out he had sex with her "little girl") and i felt like i was trying too hard so i just stopped calling him period. it was VERY weird walking past him in the hall without saying a word considering he was my best friend it seemed like the day before. things were like that for awhile, then one day he called me and said he wanted us to be friends and be able to hang out and go to the same parties without me being so blah around him. so i agreed and we talked a LITTLE more and he invited me to his friends house a few days later. we drank and i slipped again. we had sex, only this time it was different. afterwards he said it wasnt right, and it was stupid of us. i think i wanted to kill myself. he bought me 72 hour pills to get rid of anything that might make me pregnant, and that was the rest of him for 6 months. i didnt dress up for school anymore and school and my life just didnt come together. i dragged myself to do little things, and i didnt want to live. he made me feel like just another girl. now it was towards the end of my freshman year and i still havent said a thing to him even when he is in my same german class the last semester of school. its the last few weeks of school and tells me he wants us to be okay with eachother because if anything happened to me, he would pretty much feel like shit for the rest of his life. things were okay i guess and i didnt really accept him into my life for awhile, i just ignored him when i felt like it because i didnt think he deserved anything which he didnt because he gets whatever he wants and i wasnt letting that happen. so the next thing i know, hes checking out my best friend, and i get a text from him asking me if i cared if him and my best friend dated. of coarse i said i didnt care, but i did. my best friend doesnt like him and she wouldnt do that to me in a million years, but shes the kind of girl that all the guys like. shes really cute and italian and she lead almost every guy on, then stops at a point where they still like her, but she lets them know shes better than them? i dont know how to explain it any other way. but he calls her and she calls him, except he talks to her like shes the best thing in town and she talks to him like hes nothing. i dont know if thats good or bad, because he likes the kind of girls that are hard to get and shes perfect for that. she tells me she doesnt like him, and she told him she wouldnt do that. but they fight all the time, and i dont know if im right or not but i thought that people only faught when they cared about eachther enough? i dont think there is really an answer to my question, and its okay if you dont want to respond but it would be great if you did. thank you if you read this far.. no one has really wanted to hear about it
brooke
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Ahh, I read it and i'm sorry. Thats a hard thing to go through but you know what? You need forget him. No matter how hard that is for you. He isn't worth your time and if he's crazy about your friend and she isn't then thats just fine and dandy eh? No, thats never how high school works. He'll probably be a total screw up like this his entire life and you need to keep that in mind. Try to move on, go out with other guys and different friends, have fun and do the most you can to ignore his drama he proceeds to make around you two.
You sound very matture and I'm sure you'll be able to get through this if you try.
good luck
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