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should i talk to him
i met this guy in february.. we got along really well & started talkin like everyday, and we started to like each other and talked about bein more than friends. well despite all that he acted kinda jealous of my guy friends and then during like the 1st week of april he kinda flipped more than usual and we havent talked since. i dont 'like' him anymore, and i guess he doesnt like me either since he hasnt made any effort to talk to me. idk is it even worth it to call him or message him and see how everything is and jus whats up or should i jus move on and leave him in my past
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hey there, greetings and salutations.
all right, so what oddball alias can we assign to this boy? i chooooooose... "abu", since i just took my world religions test on islam and the name "abu bakr" is stuck in my psyche. ^_^
ok, so abu and you met, hangin' out, talky talky, likey likey, discussy BCWW (bow-chicka-wow-wow...yeah...don't ask me what the hell i was doing adding y's to the end of things...'cause honestly, i don't know...). ways of any, he started to act jealous of your guy friends and flipped out more than usual. um, small question. when you say "more than usual" does that mean he flips out a lot normally and it's just in a lesser degree than the april 1st freak-out?? that probably is a key thing you want to watch for if you're planning on dating someone. i'm not saying people can't be flippy-outy (damn it, there i go again) and in turn un-dateable, because i do know people like that and they're mostly all pretty cool people. but if he's assuming that you guys are attached, especially if you two haven't admitted that you like each other, then he's getting a just a smidge possessive.
you don't like-like him anymore (lord, saying "like-like" makes me feel like a 6th grader ^_^;), and you don't think he likes you that way anymore either. that's perfectly fine, especially if he's gonna get jealous of your guy friends if you and abu were dating.
to be fair to him, he might not have called or messaged because he's cooling off, or maybe just because he hasn't had time. but then again he might have just kind of gotten over his crush on you and sort of, not forgotten, but i can't think of a better word. i've done that before, i sorta thought i liked someone and was good friends with them for like a month or sometimes a little longer, and then suddenly i find myself not liking them that way or not at all.
actually, i now remember a specific time that happened. i had to take a summer biology class and i made friends with this kid named robert. we both liked anime, british comedy, guitar, computers, blah blah blah, we hung out a lot and talked a bunch, and he even took me and my friends out to see "shrek 2" where he payed for all of us. for a while i was seriously considering dating him, because i kinda liked him and it was insanely obvious he liked me (and of course my friends wanted to have free movies ^_^). but then he started not letting me get off the phone in less than 10 or 15 minutes of a goodbye, he always wanted to do stuff with me and for me, and my affection towards him waned until we sort of just did not talk anymore. i haven't spoken to him since (though his number is in my phone still :P). so really, it's not always intentional, but people can start out liking each other and getting along well and talking a lot, but then just sort of grow apart and it's almost like you "forget" about each other.
my advice is that if you really want to have him as a friend still, then go ahead and IM him if he's online, or give him a call if you want. and i'm all for having friends, especially guy friends, which is in no ways apparent at all on my column... ^_^ if you don't think it's worth the effort, or if he doesn't want to talk, then just shrug your shoulders, go "ah well, such is life", release any thoughts about this from your mind, and go and find something fun to do and move on. either way, however it works out, don't fret too much over it. there will be plenty of other guys who come around that you will have the opportunity to be friends with and possibly date.
hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
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