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hes my ex
ok well i kinda like my ex boyfriend again. we broke up because his parents wouldnt let us date anymore until they got over some problems. well, i dont know if he likes me or not. i just dont know what to do. will you please help me?
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Dear Reader,
First off you need to find out if his parents are over whatever problem it is they were having. If they aren't yet it's best to wait; if it cause problems earlier chances are it might again. If the are however then you can take the next step, and that is finding out if he still has feelings for you too. First let's point out the no-no's, the things you want to avoid. Avoid phrases like, "I still like/have a crush on you" and "Do you still like me?". Usually all that these do is make them feel uncomfortable and weird, and those are two feelings you don't want him to associate with you. You want him to like you, like he did before. So instead try a different approach. Ask him on a date. I know that's easier said then done when it comes to a crush, so take the pressure off yourself by wording it a different way. Say something like, "Hey do you want to go bowling with me this weekend?" or "You wanna come check out this new miniture golf place with me?". Now I know that those may sound like lame date idea's but really those(or something similar)would be ideal for what you are trying to do. Both of these activities are fun and challenging(Challenges create positive endorphins that are sent to your brain, making you feel good). And you do want him to associate those feelings with you. But those are the only things that make this the perfect environment to find out the information you want and help him re-grow those feelings for you. Both places are busy enough that you avoid that horrible aqward silence but quite enough that you can talk normally. Plus in both games you can take the game as slow or as fast as you want, depending on how the date is going. AND if for any reason you get nervous and don't know what to say or start feeling weird you can simply shift your attention to the game and it's completely normal.
Just remember, no matter how it works out, what's meant to happen will happen; just give it time.
Good Luck! Let me know how it turns out :)
~Kambrey
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Well, did you break up with him, or did he break up with you? If you broke up with him, and he seemed to be hurt, tell him sorry.
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