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should i say yes?
k well i met this guy a lil over a month ago and we talk for hours every night now and we get along really great. i kno he likes me because he always is super sweet to me + he jus came out n said that he likes me not too long ago and asked if i like him. i said i kinda did [cuz i kinda do] and ive kinda been more of a flirt with him but now i sorta wish i hadnt been doin that. yes i do like him but i dont want a bf right now bc im really enjoyin the single life and im worried that if he asks me out and i say yes that i wont be into the relationship or w/e or that if i say no that, like any other guy, he'll move on to someone else and ill regret it. what should i do?
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good evening and salutations, my dear. ^_^
that's great you and this guy (whom i'll asign the pseudonym of "rocco") talk a lot on the phone. it's not always as good as talking in person but there's always fun to be had with a good'n'weird phone chat.
just a cautionary note that doesn't even really apply to this case, i'm just throwing it out there for all the girls (and guys too) to think about: while some people may act nice and super sweet and says that they like you, that doesn't necessarily mean that that's how they really feel and think about you. you don't need to always expect the worst in people but the phrase "ulterior motives" should always be tucked in the back of your mind as a possibility. just be careful, s'all i ask of you, moi dears. ^_^
anyways, rocco sounds like a nice enough kid. i don't know too much about him so i can't tell if he's what would be classified as a "nice guy", one that would really take it hard if you've been flirting with him a lot and he takes that to mean that you majorly dig him, but then you decide that you don't want to date him. i'm not saying you're leading him on or anything, again, i'm just giving you things to think about and take into account.
if he likes you and you like him, then sure, if you guys want to date, go ahead! you say you don't want to give up the single life, and that's fine too. but remember, if he does ask you out, feel free to go ahead and go out! just because you go out on a date (and i mean when both you and he have verbally confirmed that that's what it is) doesn't mean you two are a couple. if you go out once or twice or a few more times, you still could just be casually dating, and not considering each other to be bf/gf.
if he does ask you out on a date and you still don't feel like you really want to be in a relationship, then make sure you tell him that's it's just a date and that you're not sure you want to go into a relationship right now. if he likes you he'll probably be ok with that and you two can go to lunch, see a movie, have a good time, and then you can see if you like him more or if the idea of having him as a boyfriend appeals to you more. as long as you're honest, think carefully, don't overthink things too much, take things slowly, and stay open to having a fun time with someone who could turn out to be a really great friend (or, potentially, boyfriend), things should work out fairly well.
if you have any more questions, feel free to email me again. hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
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