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help please
well hi uhhmm.. i dont exactley know what sex is i mean everyone in school knows all these things and different terms and i dont know this stuff and im to embarrassed to ask if ure not to embarassed to explain please explain!!
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I am confused as to what you are asking about.
Many different things constitute sex.
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Sex is not just about penetration, it is about many different things. Sex should be a loving expression of intimacy between two people, I strongly believe it shouldn't be casual. Always explore your partners body gently and find out what arouses them before attempting any kind of heavy petting.
Foreplay generally includes:
- Kissing - either touching your lips, or a wet kiss involving tongues
- Masturbation / mutual masturbation - touching the genitals of your partner for erotic stimulation, i.e: touching your partners penis/having him touch your clitoris or insert his fingers into your vagina or vice versa. Sorry, you didn't say if you were a girl or a boy. Masturbating a man has many, many different euphemisms, including wanking off, jerking off, which tend to be the most common. Masturbating a girl is usually referred to as being 'fingered' by most crude teens.
- Oral sex - this can be either you fellating your partner (putting his penis in your mouth is what fellatio is) or your partner performing cunniligus on you, which is him stimulating your clitoris with his tongue or inserting his tongue into your vagina. This is normally referred to as having a guy 'go down on you', 'lick you eat' or 'eat your pussy'. A good idea for a lot of people who are experimenting with sex is to come up with non threatning language of their own which they use to refer to their genitals and the particular acts they want to perform on each other.
- Heterosexual sex - 'full' heterosexual sex refers to the act of a male inserting his penis into his female partners vagina. The usual course of action is for the penis (and hopefully the clitoris/vagina) to be stimulated through different sexual positions and thrusting of the penis, until the man ejaculates (expels semen) and loses his erection. Women are not usually capable of orgasming during sex itself, and require additional stimulation to their clitorises. Sex is normally referred to in slang terms as 'shagging', 'fucking' or 'getting laid'. Different sub groups of society have their own language which refers to the sex act. Mens ejaculation and womans orgasming is usually referred to as 'coming'. I.e: when a bloke is going to ejaculate he will say, "I'm going to come."
Gay sex (homosexual sex) usually consists of oral sex (fellatio - which is sometimes called 'blowjobs') and anal sex, which includes the inserting of an erect penis into the anal opening. Heterosexual couples have anal sex too, but less than homosexual couples. Anal sex should be enjoyed if it is what pleasures you, and for more many people it is. Anal sex can involve many more diseases, as bacteria there is much more bacteria in the rectum than there is in the vagina. NEVER have vaginal sex after the penis has been in the anus.
Lesbian sex (tribadism) usually involves mutual masturbation, oral sex and sometimes insertion of phallic shaped toys into the vagina or anus.
The most important thing when you begin exploring sex is to be careful and gentle. Don't EVER be pressured into performing a sex act which you do not understand or do not want to do.
Always practice safe sex if you decide to begin having sex. This means using a condom. These can either be male condoms, which fit over the erect penis, or female condoms, which line the inside of the vagina. Female condoms tend to be more expensive than male condoms, but both can usually be obtained free from family planning centres such as Planned Parenthood. If you live in the U.K, national health care programmes should provide access to free contraception and contraceptive advice.
Sorry if some of this seems dreadfully graphic and crude to you, but in my experience it is best to be honest with people so they are armed with all the facts before they go out there into the real world.
If you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask!
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