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My Best friend's girl cheated on him.
My best friend is an eighteen year old guy who thinks he's in love with an emotionally unstable girl, who is also a close friend of mine. He does care for her a lot, as do I - we want the best for her. She tried to commit suicide a couple of months ago, and she's been undergoing recovery since then, including undergoing hypnosis and being put on prozac. She's been doing great so far up until now - for the last few days she's been falling back with her old crowd, the one she used to get drunk and high with, part of the reason she decided to kick the bucket a couple of months ago.
On Wednesday, she got drunk and made out with another guy - total asshole. She told him that she got wasted, and they talked about it and made up, but she didn't tell him that she cheated on him. The girl who told me wasn't supposed to, and if I talk to Sam (the girl) about it, she'll know it was her who told me. The problem is that this girl is in love with the guy, she has been for the last year since they broke up - she doesn't try to ruin things for him, and like me, she wants the best for him and even Sam. What I (and she) don't know what to do is whether or not we should tell him, or keep it from him that Sam cheated on him that night?
If we do tell him, obviously all hell is going to break loose, and one of the things that is going to happen is that this girl is going to be accused of telling me only for the sake of breaking Sam and him up - which is so far from the truth. We have noo idea what to do. She doesn't care about being talked about, but she doesn't want him to think that she wants him to get hurt.
I, on the other hand, don't want my best friend to live a lie, and at the same time, I don't want Sam to have another thing that could hold her back from completeing her recovery.
I'm so confused, what do I do?
I'm sixteen, female.
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You need to stick by her side even if it does mean keeping her from doing something she wants. Talk to her let her know that you care about her and you don't want to see her going back to the way she was if she doesnt change help her and almost force her. Tell her that she needs to tell the boy what she had done and tell her to tell him why she did and that shes sorry. Once you tell her these things or whats on her mind its probly not exactly what she wants to here but you need to talk to her help her in her recovery support her on all the good things shes doing. When she trys to go back and drink then convince her not to and remind her of how hard she has work to quit it. Just tell her whats on your mind and stick by her side.
♥ jackie
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Doesn't sound like her recovery is going very well.
She needs a support group. AA or alanon, whichever pertain to her problem.
Returning to the old crowd is a great big no-no. Old crowd = old behavior.
I honestly don't know if you should say anything about her cheating. I do know that you guys are going to have to stop treating her with kid gloves. It doesn't work. I might let her know that YOU know all about the cheating. Maybe she will confess.
The message she is receiving is behave bad, get forgiven, rinse, lather, repeat.
Try to get her to attend a meeting of a support group. They have been where she is now. She won't be able to fool them. They will help her.
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