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Revenge
My girlfriend(22) of 5mths has broken up with me.
We were always so close. I did everything possible for her. Flowers, woodwork projects, poems, etc. She left me finding a porn site on my computer. Nonetheless, this site cant be the only reason she left me. I am going to meet up with her in a couple of days. What should I say to her. What can I say that will melt her heart. What can I say that will make her feel guilty, I said enough sorries. I do strongly believe her mother is behind the whole break up and she is afraid of her mother. We used to IM alot and I know she still has me on her messenger which tells me she is not ready to let me go. I don't want to be harsh with her. But I do want to vent my heart. I love this girl even though she broke up with me. I want her to feel so guilty that she will come back because I believe she is afraid of her mother and therefore has no interaction with me in case her mother finds out. We were very very close. Any advice my dear readers? I want to be with her again and then a smile I once had can once again find its place on my face.
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You are going about this all wrong.
Loving her and wanting 'revenge' are two completely contradictory ideas.
You say you love her, but you want us to give you advice on how to best 'make her feel guilty'.
Newsflash darling, unless she isn't human, she does feel guilty. She feels awful.
She isn't out there someplace laughing joyously about the breakup. She might even feel just as bad as you.
If you really want her back, forgive her. Let the anger you have over her decision, her mother, whatever, let it go.
Tell her honestly, without judgment or resentment, what you feel and what you think happened. Tell her you want her back; ask what you can do to make it right. Ask her what she thinks you both need to do.
You don't need to apologize anymore, but if you really want a relationship you are the one who needs to sell the idea to her.
Do not try to guilt her into taking you back. That's low, that is scummy, that's controlling. That's the kind of guy I would drag my best friend a county away from and the kind I would forbid my daughter from seeing.
If a guy I dumped tried to make me feel guilty just so I'd take him back that would tell me that I made the right call in dumping him. Because 1.) He wouldn't ne respecting my feelings or decision 2.) He would be deliberately trying to cause me pain and 3.) It would amazingly immature to sink so low as to try and get revenge on me, as though I haven't cried my eyes out over it as well.
Forget revenge. Forget hurting her. If you love her, then love her and hope to God that that is enough to bring her back. It might not be.
But if you just guilt her into taking you back, then you are back together on borrowed time. Sooner or later, she will figure out that you played her and bullied her, and that will be the end.
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