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She Doesn't Understand.
So I have this friend, she moved away like a month ago. and we talk online. She can be cool at some times, but then after a while on our conversation, she can act like someone else.
I dont like it, and it bothered me. I said something to her about it, and she started to cuss at me and everything. I told her I don't want to be friends who will treat me like that. And she was like "Fine, whatever"
So I signed off, and just forgot about her. Then she called my house from Long Distance, crying saying how sorry she is, and she wants to be friends. I accepted her apology and we were friends. Then when we chatted online she did everything all over again.
But this time, I told her I don't really think we should be friends if she is going to act "different" And she called my cell phone 10 times in a row. She calls & hangs up. and did the same thing 9 other times. It got me pissed off. She left me messages on this one site saying "I'm so sorry, let's my friends again."
How do I get her to get the point that I don't want to be friends with her, if she doesn't change?
May I add, she yells at me for hanging out with my 'other' friends, then her. She makes me feel like as if she wants me all to herself.
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Obviously this girl has a problem with something and whether it's you or something else is unknown but my guess would be that she is quite badly jealous of the friendship you have with your other friends that she can no longer have with you. Chances are she might also be hving difficulties making friends where she lives now and for this reason, is finding it harder to let go of the friends she once had.
This being said, nothing excuses her behaviour towards you and I can fully understand your reluctance to continue the friendship. Sadly, it seems she, on the other hand, is finding it a little harder.
Somehow, whether it be by letter, e-mail, text or phone, you need to relay to her that you are not prepared to continue the friendship due to her irrational, jealous and posessive behaviour and that you can't trust her promises that it won't be repeated, as these have been broken previously. Therefore, you would like her to stop calling and texting you, at least until she realises that she cannot treat you this way. It just isn't what friends do.
It's up to you whether after this you want to give her one more chance but I would recommend that if you do, you make it her last chance, after which point you cease all communication with her.
I know it sounds harsh but if you really want to get the point across that she can't treat you like this, you have to be strong.
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Ok don't let her treat you like this i hate to admit it but i used to be like that with a friend of mine(a guy) and he told me to chill out and if i didn't stop acting like that our friendships over it shocked me at first i think thats why she called you to say sorry it shocking to hear how real that can but but if she continues to act like that end the friendship you really shouldn't be treated like that
*good luck <3*
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