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interricaly sex
Ok my name is christine and i just had sex with my boyfriend and hes black and i didn't use portection yeah i know stupid but thats not the point i know i am preg could u give me advice on how i should tell my parents because my parents are tottal raciest help what do i do
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Dear young mother,
Well, there is no way that this is going to be easy. Even if your boyfriend were not black. It would be just one less thing to worry about. Do they know that you have a black boyfriend? If so, then let them figure it out, after you tell them that you are pregnant. I can only say that I often see families, even grandparents with little kids that are obviously from an inter-racial relationship, and they seem to love each other all all is OK. Once the baby is here, any reasonable person will see that it is not the baby's fault, and if they are "normal" people, they will fall in love with their new grandchild. Are you planning on keeping the baby?
There are so many things coming down the road, that you need to worry about, your "racists" parents will be the least of your worries. They will get over it, based on how well YOU handle it. You have to worry about having a healthy pregnancy, a safe delivery, taking care of the baby, (without getting overhwelmed )and financially supporting the baby. It is not easy for a young woman with a husband and their own home. So there is no way it is going to be easy for an unwed teenager. But that doesn't mean you can't do it. The law says the final decision is in your hands. You can abort the baby, or have the baby and keep it, or have the baby and give it up for adoption. So you have some soul searching to do. If you think you are old enough to be having sex, unprotected at that, then it is time for you to be mature, face the situation that you have put yourself in, and make some decisions. You are going to feel lonely and overwhelmed at times. But adult life is full of momements like that. No way to avoid it.
I wish you luck. If it helps, know that young girls find them selves in this position all the time. For 100's of years. It has been happening since man discovered woman.
I think, since you are looking for advice, that you are committed to going through with this. You must be a very strong young lady. You already know the difference between right and wrong, since you know that your parents are wrong for being racists. Maybe this is God's way of changing them. Because I don't see how they could turn their backs on their own flesh and blood, especially a little baby. It would help to say that you understand that "while they may have had hopes of becoming grandparents, that they wish it could have been in a different way".This will tell them that you DO understand, and that you are sorry, but.........
Now we have to deal with the situation at hand!
I think in the end, they will be supportive. Just give them a little time to be mad for a while. They love you too, and they will get over it.
MIchele
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