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Am I worrying to much?
Am I worrying to much?
Question Posted Thursday March 16 2006, 7:29 pm
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I have posted more questions about my relationship on this site before...
Recently me and my bf(23)are planning a trip to the caribean for december ..you know we want to get to families (has been a long time)and beside he wants to meet his son.
Things are very smooth between
me and him ...But the mother of his kid (his Ex) is working on my nerves ..We only know eachother from msn and yet she is very rude to me sometimes (long story..)
And she do not have to because I am a very sweet and patient person.
But my question is
I am very worried about december because we are going over there to meet his son ..I can imagine this is gone be kinda hard for me because they gone want to be alone (mother ,son and father)what should I do?..Should I just ignore this ..beside his son is gone be baptise december shouldI go to the party (baptise party)with him?
It may seems stupid but I am really worried..I do not know how to act when we go on this trip on december
I even ask him to go alone ..But than that would be unfair to my family because its a long time I haven't seen them
I really want him to enjoy this trip ..he deserve it.....I am gone be like ..: to many people on the table????...(that's a old saying from th caribean when there is people in a room who should not be there)...lol
Please answer me..I really need answer
Thank you!
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Hello,
I understand that this is a stressful situation, and there are many details to think about so, no... I don't think you are worrying too much.
I do think you should go on the trip. Your b/f obviously knows what his ex is like, and he is with you now because you are a better person for him.
It's good that he wants to see his son, but you are a part of his life too. If you are not included in the visits with his son, most likely it is because of the ex and not your b/f. In that case I would allow them time to themselves and not worry about it. You will again be the better person for not coming between him and his son. He will see that and be grateful to you. While he is enjoying the company of his son, you should visit and spend time with your family.
As far as the baptism, yes I think you should go. You are a part of your b/f's life and should now be included in the life of the child. No matter how infrequent you will see him, your presence is important.
Act proud that this man wants to see his son, and do everything you can to help them have a nice time. Think of it as you are doing it all for the innocent child that got caught in the crossfire of a bad relationship (no fault of the child)
If the ex says anything to you, or makes you feel uncomfortable, just be polite and smile. She will look like the fool and not you.
Good Luck :-) and have a nice trip.
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