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I hate it when people keep things from me...especially my bo
Hey, I'm talking to my boyfriend online right now and he asked me if I have asked any one for advice on things in our relationship. I said yeah and i told him a couple of things that I have asked advice for. I asked him the same question and he said yes and that he did "10 minutes ago" about how to be closer. He told me he asked one of the girls I talk to the most thats on my basketball team. He said that he wants to keep it between him and her about what she said. I dont like it when people keep secrets from me, especially if its my own boyfriend/best friend. Has this ever happened to you? How have you handled it before?
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I don't think it's that big of a deal. I mean, yes, it makes you feel kind of jealous and upset, but really, all he did was talk to someone about you. Someone that knows you well and would be able to help him out. I think the reason he doesn't want to tell you is because he doesn't want to make you feel bad about something you may have done that he asked her about. When someone asks for advice it means that something is wrong and they want to either fix it or cope with it in the best way. If it's something personal about you he's not going to want to tell you so that you get uspet over it and try to change yourself. He's protecting you more than anything. If it bothers you that he's talking to your friend, just recommend advicenators to him. It's less personal and there's a very small chance of him falling for one of the people on here if that is what you're worried about. Otherwise, try to trust him a little more. People on advicenators would be able to help him less than your friends would because they know you better. He's shown that he's not embarassed to say that he has asked for advice and that he wants your relationship to be the best it can be and last a long time. I've never had any problems with this kind of thing. I let my boyfriend do whatever he wants with very very few boundaries. I check up on him sometimes, but it's more to have a laugh over things that he's doing and an interest in what he's up to than a jealousy issue. I'm have a lot of trust in him and I'm not a jealous person at all. It's a lot better this way, where there's little jealousy. So, basically what I'm saying is, even though you may feel a little jealous, it's always better to try not to be and if you are don't let it show and it will go away soon enough and not become a problem. It's good that you and your boyfriend are so open with each other. I think that the biggest problem in relationships is the lack of communication. You two don't have a problem with that and I think that because of that you can and do have quite a good relationship. Try to be a little more understanding of what he does and good luck!
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Don't make a big deal out of it. Most guys don't like that.
It's not like he is cheating on you or anything. He asked one of the people you are closest to how to better you all's relationship. A lot of guys wouldn't bother to do that. So be grateful that you have a good boyfriend and relax.
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well you could do one of two things, you could go the physcoanalitical route or the chilled route.
the first one would be something like:
"well if you didnt want me to know why would you tell me, you obviously wanted me to know at least that you did, which really means you want me to know so you want to tell me." then blah blah
or my personal choice, the chilled route
"oh thats nice. well how was life today on your side of the fence"
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