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Following up...
Hi again Lucretia :)
Just following up on the guy I like. I hope you remember the situation? Basically he's a friend from home and we go to different Universities so it's really hard to get to know him, and I wasn't sure if he liked me or not. That's not much innfo lol but the last email was ridiculously long and I'm trying to avoid it again!
Well I sent him the birthday card - I should have combined it with the V-Day card like you suggested but I had already sent it :S Anyway, I decided the day after to send him a casual email, but I hadn't heard anything from him by this Tuesday just gone. So like anyone normal I decided that I'd had enough of waiting around and I'd forget about him. Naturally being a bloke, and therefore akward, he must have some kind of built-in radar, as he contacted me the next day! I had left my house for a meeting and was set to "Away" on MSN and he left me a message saying Hi, thanks for the card, he'd not been ignoring me - he'd just had no credit and that he hoped I was okay, with 2 kisses on the end! So I thought "awwwww!". So it seems to me he's at least interested in keeping in touch, which obviously is where we ned to start from if anything were to eventually happen between us.
Now, my question concerns what to do next. I think he quite likes me, although obviously I don't know the extent of it and I'm not daft enough to ask him lol! (I didn't send the V-Day card in the end btw). Ideally I'd just like to keep in touch so I can get to know him, but again he has no credit, so texting's out. He didn't reply to my previous email (just left a message on MSN) so I'm not sure there's much point in that. And he's not on MSN that often which is a bit of a bitch. Ideally I want to wait for him to come to me, but you know what men can be like! So any suggestions on how I can keep in contact without looking like I'm desparate?
Thanks for taking the time to read this, it's greatly appreciated :) If you'd like to add me to MSN that'd be really nice (though you don't have to!) - it's ellamouse9@hotmail.com. xXx
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Thanks for getting back in touch:I'll certainly add you to MSN(I'm lucrece_13@hotmail.com).
As for your problem , ithink we have good news, though it's obviously early days yet. Your friend could well be one of those guys who's poor at keeping in touch, and it doesn't hurt to help him along by dropping a note to him online when he's there, etc. Here, though, I must just enter a chill note of warning;you must have come across Greg Behrendt's bestselling "He's just not that into you". I don't normally like recommending books which have generated a craze-but this book has a solid core of common sense combined with cold fact. I just don't know, but it's possible that this man is either not all that interested, or worse, has another full-time girlfriend where he lives and is keeping you hanging on. Harsh thoughts I know, and I'm by no means saying that they're the case, but I flatter myself that I know men(at least a little better than I did). I was had that way by my first boyfriend-never online, always out of credit;it transpired that he'd been sleeping with three other women at his university.
Thus, I would recommend going carefully with this guy. He might be the nicest man in the world and just be scatty-if so, he will eventually pull up and start to contact you. (For that reason alone, it's a wise idea not to bombard him with messages-which you already know). But if he's an asshole, or simply just not that interested, then you won't have lost anything. You should start looking around your own area a bit-it's easier if your partner's in your own university town(easier said than done I know-if you're obsessing over one particular guy, then the very thought of another can be at best tedious, at worst almost repulsive). Either way, try not to give this man too much thought-hang out with your girlfriends, concentrate on work, hobbies, etc. If you leave him to cool off a bit he'll come round if he really wants.
Good luck, and MSN me any time.
Lucretia xx.
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