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majorly bad heartbreak and confusion.. i need serious help
ok.. i apologize ahead of time.. cause this will be long
People this involves:
Brandon - the guy i love
kayleigh - the girl brandon dumped me for... but now my best friend
rachel - girl who dumped brandon
alyssa - one of my best friends
kelly - another one of my best friends
theresa - 19-year-old baby sitter watching me and my brothers will my mom was in europe
ok...so i knda sorta love brandon. and it all started in the beginning of december when he asked me out, then 2 days later he dumped me. apparently the second he dumped me, he was on the fone with kayleigh.. who he asked out right then and there. then 2 weeks before christmas, my school had a christmas dance. brandon ended up going. and so kelly was sitting next to brandon and she said " you should date kristy(me)" and he said " i would but i cant" and kelly said "why not" and he said " i cant say". well eventually i found out about kayleigh. and right when brandon broke up with me he made this s/n and was pretending to be his cousin gina and asking me all this stuff about himself. and then after i fond out about kayleigh being his g/f he went on the s/n and was like "guess what.. brandon told me he wanted to dump his girlfriend and ask you out again" and i was like ok... then a week before christmas.. we went christmas carroling with some school thing called teens inc. and at the end we were about to hook up.. but then of course alyssa.. came over.. acting like a crack head.. and blew it for me. so after he left alyssa called him and was like how badly do you wanna hook up with kristy? and he was like really really bad. but he had a girlfriend. so then he dumped kayleigh and one night when i was at the movies with all my friends, he was on the fone with alyssa and i started talking to him.. then he's like put alyssa on put alyssa on, so i got really mad and i was like "w/e brandon, my boyfriend wants me" but i really didnt have a boyfriend. so alyssa took the phone and pretendec to be my "boyfriend" and he was like getting all defensive and crap and hung up. then he called back and left a message saying "i was gonna ask kristy out again but that was all so gay so nvm" and that was the second time i blew it.so then.. kayleigh comes in the picture. i was at a dance, and i met her. it turns out she was fighting with brandon.. i forget why though. so then kayleigh was like "are you kristy?!" and i was like " yeah.. are you kayleigh?!" and she was l.ike yea.. so she told me that brandon had called me an ugly shit.. and all this other stuff. then me and kayleigh became really close friends. so then my mom went away on a trip to europe and theresa was watching us. and like the second night she was watching us.. alyssa slept over, and we stayed up til 630. at 2 in the morning... theresa took us out to meet up with brandon, who snuck out of his house. but we were only with him for like 5 minutes.. then we left adn went to wawa. then as the weeks went by, along with the dances i started finding out more from kayleigh about him talking shit about me. then comes rachel. at a dance, i ended up meeting her, but it turns out i kinda already knew her, cause she was friends with a girl in my dance class, my step mom taught her in 6th grade, shes friends with alotta my friends etc.. anyway, so she went out with brandon but dumped him. and brandon still really likes her. but brandon is blaming me cause he thinks i said stuff to her about him to make her hate him but she just already hated him.. she didnt really need my help. so then tonight.. i was talking to kayleigh on the phone and we told eachother everyhthing that was said and done by him..and i found out all this shit he said about me and so kayleigh 3 wayed him in and i muted my phone. and then it became a fight and he started saying shit about me and he was like.. ill talk to kristy if she can get rachel to talk to me. and then later on in the conversation he was like " oh well kristy just ruins everything cause she became like best friends with rachel and blew it for me" so i got soo mad that i unmuted the fone and said " yah know what brandon, i didnt ruin anything for you, i didnt even know that that was her you were dating.. she didnt need my help to hate you" and we started fighting.. all 3 of us.. so then he hung up on us and kayleigh was like "yah know what.. im gonna have to call you back" and so i waited and waited till i finally called her and she told me he said that he was gonna ask me out again and give me a second chance but now he doesnt know what he was thinking cause he hates me and hever wants to talk to me
now i fell like i screwed everything up.. for the third time.. and we were finally just beginning to be friends again.. but then i just blew it and now i hate myself for it.. and im soo annoyed and mad at myself
i guess my questions for you are :
1. what do i do?!
2. how can i gain his acceptance for him
3. how can i stop loving him
4. how can i handle being friends with him
please please please help me!!
i swear.. i always rate 5's.. and for this situation.. whether its good advice or bad.. i will definately right 5's!
please help!!!
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take it from me im in love with the same type of asshole and its so hard but it seems like boys just dont think like girls. i mean seriously sometimes it just helps to talk to other people who understand the situation that you know wont tell the wrong person and that will actually listen to you so if you ever need to talk its good to have someone like that. but anyways back to about boys an girls thinking differently girls want romance an love and they want to kiss in the rain and be the girl that her boys pointing at when hes talking to his friends every girl just wants love. and sometimes i wonder if boys want that same thing. this guy your talking about seems like he's not worth it but i know you cant just stop loving someone but your best bet is to try.. for all 3 of you girls to try. you can lean on eachother replace his memories with new ones and try to not think about him, you will but everytime you do think of why your trying not to. and not just because i said to but think of how hes makeing you feel like youve screwed things up, you seem like a really nice person though and im sure that you'll find someone else im kinda going through a similar situation so i wish i could do more to help but if you ever have no one you feel like you can talk to try n get in contact with me on here and ill try to help as much as possible =) i hope this helped at least a little bit!!
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well it looks like he is blaming you for stuff you dont even do and him talking crap about you is not going to hold up in a relationship! i think you should move on...i can tell your a carring person so you derserve better!! but if you really think you want him back than try telling him your sorry and be his friend
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I seriously think you need to move on with this Brandon kid. Honestly, from the sounds of it, who knows if he even really wanted to go out with you? You need to stop think of yourself as "screwing up" because thats just going to make you feel worse about yourself. You don't need his acceptance to survive. If you really think you're in "love", leave him alone for a while, a few months later ask him if he just wants to be friends again. If he says no, then move on. He's not worth your time.
Stop trying to hook up. If he really liked you, he would be with you, trust me. And as for you to stop loving him, just give it some time, your feelings will eventually fade. In the meantime, go out and have some fun with your friends. Join a club. Do SOMETHING besides obsess over him.
Hope I helped && good luck!
Jacki
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