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so your a boy. help me out!
haha so your a boy, and i am a 14 year old girl.
and i have a crush -- yeah, i know. you've heard this one 100 times.
but i've dated this kid 7 times, and for a year off and on.
what do i do?
we are really good friends, and flirt like crazy.
i normally can get what i want. but i just want to be careful with this boy.
if you and a girl dated a couple of times, and you flirt with her .. would that mean you liked her?
what are some things that you would want a girl that likes you to do?
should i go after him, or move on?
if you help me, you'll be my hero.
k thanks ♥
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Hi,
Well, the only reason that a guy will go out with a girl more than once is if he likes her. I don't think that's in question. I don't know the boy as well as you do, so you'll have to be the judge about why he likes you. There are normally two categories of guys liking girls. One is superficial (They like the way you look, and want to benefit socially, or-eh...*physically*). The other is the way you want a guy to like you, for your personality - who you are and so on. That doesn't mean he doesn't appreciate your appearance, or physical presence, but that it's not the most important thing about you as with the first kind of affection.
You asked whether you should move on, or let it go. That really depends on the kind of affection you think he shows you. Ordinarily, I encourage people to go after their crush simply because it's a chance for things to go right. However there's always the strong possibility that things will go wrong, so it's always necessary to be prepared to back away with the minimum of hurt. If you never take the small chances then it's a whole lot harder to find rewards. On the other hand if you're ever uncomfortable with a person past a short time, then it's probably not a good idea to think "Oh well, maybe things will change". Most of the time things don't change.
Something just occurred to me. Why is it that you two haven't gotten together solidly? Have there been problems between you like fights, or differences that you can't get over? It seemed important to add this little note, just to have you think about the way your relationship with the boy stands. This counts a lot more if he's older than you, and massively if he's 17 or older. Does the boy play hot and cold? Does he sometimes seem not to care about you at all, but then apologise for it later? There are several ways that some guys string girls along, but there always seems to be some attraction in it for the girls. That's why guys do it. Anyway, if you think it's possible you might want to do a little light reading at [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
"What are some things that you would want a girl that likes you to do?"
Well are we talking about letting him know you like him? Or just in general, what should you do when you're together? I suppose they're similar things anyway, and I'd be surprised if he didn't know that you like him by now.
Things that he would want you do to vary greatly from guy to guy. You need to figure out what 'type' of guy he is. Things like whether he's spiritual, physical, verbal... Really the best way to find out what he likes is to try several sorts of behaviour around him, and see what he seems to respond best to, and fine-tune that.
Stuff for dates includes several typical sorts of things such as resting your head on his shoulder if you're sitting next to him, holding hands (You're apparently meant to signal by squeezing his hand gently before either of you links your fingers together, but to hell with etiquette, I'd doubt he knows it - try it if you think he might understand), If you're ever lying on the ground looking up, he is your pillow (Well, don't sit on him, but listening to his heartbeat is a nice touch).
Oh yes... Remember to use all of the senses. If you're out to bag the boy, make sure you smell nice, look beautiful, and feel soft and warm. Music, and food are also powerful.
Hope things work out~
—K
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