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sorry so long..but this is serious guy help
hey guys! well im having serious guy problems.I CANT FIND A GUY! i mean its not like im desperate or anything but i havent had a boyfriend yet and im 15..i know its okay that i havent had one but im getting really lonely and i would just like someone there to like hold me and stuff you know. the problem is im super shy around guys and i dont know..if i just meet them i dont talk like at all..and i seen this one guy at this other schools hockey game and he plays on their JV team..he is soo cute! but he is also popular i guess and he is going to this dance with another girl so i dont know if they like each other or what? none of my friends talk to him and i dont exactly know how i would like introduce myself without sounding stupid..because im one of those pepole that care what people think..i wish i wasnt but i cant help it..and i dont know! i just need a guy to cuddle with and like kissing and stuff..i also have another question ive madeout for the first time this summer but havent done it since! i loved it..its just that no other guys wanted to kiss me i guess..and now the next time i makeout im gonna be scared..its gonna feel like my first time since i havent done it since the summer! so many problems..any suggestions for any of this!? SORRY SO LONG!!
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why don't you calm down and stop obsessing over this little problem. I'd like a girl, but unfortunately i am in germany and the local girls sound like a gaggle of idiotic ducks when they talk. I'm in for a lonely two years. so why don't you just sit tight, and wait until you can find a nice guy that isn't occupied.
-gunner
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You wrote that you'd like to have a boyfriend because you're feeling lonely. I'm wondering if you might feel a little less anxious about boyfriends if you explored alternate ways of addressing your loneliness. It's generally not a great idea to get into relationships out of desperation, and extreme loneliness can be a source of desperation. Good relationships are about two people enjoying each other but still functioning as independent people. I'd try to work on your loneliness by enjoying time with friends, making new friends, trying new activities.
As for "making out"- take it slowly, and do what feels comfortable to you. Kissing and hugging and so forth are your decisions. You can say "no" if you're not ready to handle something. It's okay to want to do something one day but not the next- you might be tired or upset and just not feel up to it. Of course, be responsible about anything that is at the level of sexual contact, and use protection. I don't recommend sexual activity at your age, but do be responsible in what you do.
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