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married man's gift leaves me feeling guilty
I'm feeling really bad about something. Well about 4 months ago a married man that I had feelings for gave me a computer. We never had an affair but came close. He gave me his old computer because he was moving with his wife to another province and said he just wanted to get rid of it. I excepted it but felt guilty about excepting such an extravagant gift. He knew I didnt have much money and I think he also gave it to me because he felt bad for moving away from me.
Well anyways, I havent told any of my friends or family. I have the computer hidden in the bedroom of my appartment. I put it in the bedroom because my friends never go in it, they usually just hang out in my kithen or living room. They all still think that I've been going to the library to check and send emails. Since he gave me the computer, I got the internet hooked up. I never said anything to my friends or family because I knew I'd be bombarded with questions, and wanting to know why a married man would give me such an extravagant gift.
Should I tell them or just keep it a secret?
signed,
guilty
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Your friend is simply a kind hearted and generous individual. There's no need for you to delve too deeply into his alleged intentions. Use the computer and reserve the trip to the local library for paper based reading materials!
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That was a very kind gesture of him. Since nothing actually happened you don't have to put any sexual tension on it. You shouldn't feel guilty that he gave you such a nice gift, especially because he probably didn't need it anymore.
I think it is ok to tell your family and friends you have a computer. If you don't want to tell them the truth (which isn't advisable) then you can say that you got it on ebay or at a garage sale or something like that. There is not much explaining involved there. If they ask about the money just say that you've been saving up and didn't want to tell anyone because you didn't want anyone to help you out.
If you want to tell the truth- which I would suggest. Tell them that you have a very generous friend who just moved away and he didn't have use for it anymore. You don't have to give details unless you feel comfortable. Truthfully this new computer should be a sign of relief, so don't feel guilty about it!
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