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im confused about what to do with my ex cody, its like i get the hot and cold responses from him, so to speak. sometimes he's extrememly nice and we flirt and get along GREAT and others he seems completely shy and doesnt talk to me.
i have liked him since august (it now being january) and in august when i told him that he said he liked me too. so he kind of dragged his feet .. not sure what he wanted .. didnt know waht to do . the usual guy thing. and when i'd finally given up hope on him and me he left me a message at midnight on october 10th like three months later sayin he wanted to give us a try. only to dump me 10 days late b/c he he liked someone else .. then he told me a couple weeks later that he wouldn't have dumped me for her if she hadn't had a boyfriend ..
so that was like november .. now its january and the guy is still all i think of. i try so hard to get over him .. but like around every other corner hes either makin me fall for him again or his friends are being COMPLTELY honest and telling me stuff he says.
like shawn told me that they talk about me all the time (he wouldnt say what but he said the stuff worked in my favor) and that in our study hall (me him and cody have it together) he cant wait for me to come out and talk to them .. and i asked him to stop jokin around w/ me and he went off sayin how honest and truthful he was being ..
then new years cody called. he came and got me on his snowmobile. me and his brother and friend hung out from 9 to 3. we hung out. watched fireworks in the barn by ourselves. hung out around the bon fire. laughed constantly and flirted. i thought it went great .. i had like good hopes you know .. we fell asleep on the couch then they brought me home. he said he'd call. yeah a week and half later .. no call. we talk at school . nothing big hey and how are u kinda stuff ..
i know its probably worthless to waste my time .. and you can be completley honest in tellin me so. but like even though my head knows that .. i cant let go .. 5 months later .. jesus look at me .. in so far i cant even get out .. i've never fallen for anyone like i've fallen for cody. he tells me he can see us dating in the future but doesnt do anything about it .. i just dont know what he wants .. its like this i guess to explain it well ..
It's like a routine.
I fall for him on Monday.
I like him from Tuesday to Thursday.
He make me mad on Friday.
I think I'm over him over the weekend.
But the SECOND I see him on Monday morning
I fall for him again and again
i just dont know what to do ..
i've never felt like this for anyone but him ..
so now that i've finished my freakin book .. im sorry its soo long. i just want all the details in it .. sorry sorry sorry.
alyssa05x@aol.com .. if you need more info or something doens't make sense.
i really appreciate it and im sorry about the length .. thanks in advance
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Ok first of all, I read 300 page books in a day, so don't worry about the lenght of your question, lol.
Ok so now, there are a couple of ways you can go about this. First, you could just give up on him, still be his friend, still like him, but whenever he brings up a future between the two of you, tell him straight off that it's never going to happen.
Another way you could go about this to go for it. Really go for it, be dominanat, you want to go out with him, ask him out. He didn't call you, you call him. Persue him, maybe he's just shy. Shy people tend to be outgoing when they're feeling most secure about themselves, but there are days when it's unbearable to be outgoing, especially around someone they may like, and so they shy away. (Trust me on this shy thing, I'm extremely shy)
The last thing you may want to try (last thing I can think of, there's probably way more ways though)Is to play it careful, tell him you're interested, see what he does. If he's still hot and cold with you, ask him about it. Ask him what it is he wants (does he want to just be friends, does he want a relationship, or does he just want to be friends with benefits). Either way, you need to find out from HIM what he wants, it's the best way to know for sure what he feels. After you find out his motives, take it slow, think things through, and then act accordingly. That's all I got for you, hope it helps a little.
Ok well one more thing, I know maybe you just want to stop liking him altogether, and I know it seems impossible because it's been 5 months, and you're still not over him, and you've never felt about like this about anyone before. All I can say to that is, it may take while for you to get over him, maybe even years. And it's hard, you'll cry yourself to sleep many nights, but if you feel that he's just toying with you (and I'm sorry to say some guys do this) then you need to move on. Don't show him you still have feelings for him, hide them. Take them out somehow...maybe talk to friends (although after a while they might get tired of it, lol), you could maybe write how you feel about him, in a song, or a story, or maybe a poem. The key is to not let it bottle inside, deal with it. Eventually you'll wake up and he'll be out of your mind, or someone will come along and take him out of your mind. This may not be what you want to hear, but you can't choose who you like and don't like. I was in love with one of my closest friends for 3 years, what finally got me over him was a combination of two things: I started liking this guy, and we started dating, and I liked my friend less, and then I found out my friend was gay (lol), and that really upset me, but finally I got over him. Everybody gets over everybody, it's just a matter of how long.
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