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to start im 13/f
well you see in school like about a week ago... i had my best friend give my boyfriend a note.. when she came back she said my x was saying that it was over with me and my boyfriend.. so beleiveing my x.. i wrote my boyfriend another note saying that it was over.. (i didn't want to be the one getting dumped here!) anyway... my boyfriend said that he wasn't going to dump me.. and i felt really really guilty... and i regret that i dumped him because i really really loved him!
but... that day he asked another girl out! (desperite)
my friends have been telling me all kinds of stuff about him like he comes to school high.. and while we were going out he was cheating on me.. (thats what my friends say)
i was just wondering.. should i tell him how i feel and that i realy love him and miss him or should i just wait to see what happens after he dumps this slut?
please help! thanks!
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Well I am sorry that you are hurting over this. I know that it seems easier to be the dumper instead of the one getting dumped, but next time, if you really like someone you shouldn't let your ego get in the way of your happiness. However, I understand what you did and why you did it. It sucks to be hurting over someone breaking up with you and have to deal with everybody around knowing all about it. Just realize that this was the easy way out and it didn't end up so well for you.
As far as whether you should pursue a reconciliation, I would have some hesitations if I were you. You say that according to your friends, he cheated on you while you were together. Why would your friends lie? If he was cheating on you before, he will cheat on you again. You deserve to be with someone who will respect your relationship. If you think that your friends are lying to you about him cheating, then you should probably look for other friends (but that is a whole other subject). Also, if you have reason to believe that he is involved in drugs then it might be better that your relationship ended when it did.
You didn't mention how long you had been together but it sounds like there were a lot of potential pitfalls in the relationship (cheating, drugs) and I also wonder why your ex boyfriend is spending time and effort messing with your new relationships. It could be that he wants a chance to be with you again. I obviously don't know anything about that situation, but I just thought I'd point out the possibility.
Your most recent ex-boyfriend is dating someone else now and declaring your feelings to him is bound to stir up some trouble for you with her as well. Since your situation with him was less than solid, it might be best just to leave it alone for awhile and see how things shake out naturally.
Because I realize that at thirteen it is almost impossible to follow your head and ignore your heart, I will leave you with this. If you decide that you can't bear to be without him; tell him you want him back and he wants the same thing - be careful! Pay attention to what is going on in his life and if you start seeing indications that he is a druggie, a cheater or a liar - move on! You deserve better than that. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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