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Hey, me and my boyfriend have just started making out and having dry sex. I think he gets more out of dry sex than I do, and I would like to know how to make it better for me. Also, how do you make kissing more fun, and feel a lot better?
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Hi. I wish I knew your age, but I'm going to try this anyway, not knowing a thing. First of all, I want to give you a site to learn a little more about "dry sex." This is a very interesting site and you may find out info that you weren't aware of before.
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Before I tell you some things you could do to make your making out a little more exciting for yourself, I do want to ask you to try to be as careful as possible with dry sex because there are ways of doing it that can pass sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and a girl can actually become pregnant with this kind of sex, though it's not as easy, of course, as if you were having vaginal intercourse. You'll be able to read more about this on the site I've given you.
OK, now that I've said all that, let me ask you some questions. Is your boyfirend trying to make sure that you are enjoying the dry sex as much as he is? Or, is he thinking, like too many guys do, that you're enjoying it no matter what's going on because, well, women are supposed to enjoy sex? If he's trying different things with you and you're still not getting much pleasure out of it, then maybe you can suggest things to him that you might like (that's really all right and it's better to do it anyway so the guy doesn't have to guess). Are you guys doing this with your clothes on, partly on, or all the way off? Having your clothes on can add an element of excitement because of the guessing and wondering what's under the clothes. One can also find that feeling under the clothes is exciting. Make sure that you're able to rub yourself (preferrably with clothes on) on him - for example, you can sit on a leg and rub yourself on the leg and he can then touch you in various "hot" spots that, with experimenting, you'll know what they are. The key here is to try to please each other and not allow the guy to just rub himself against you for his sole pleasure. Also, are you guys thinking that oral sex is dry sex? Because, well it's not exactly. If you're doing that, then I'd say you've really got to be careful about STDs AND whether or not your guy is trying to give you pleasure and he doesn't think this is all for him.
Whatever kind of sex you guys are doing, please make sure that there is some kind of emotional commitment between you and that you're not feeling pressured to do this. Know as much as you can about both intercourse and dry sex and ask yourself if this is really what you want or need to be doing right now. You may have a lot of friends doing this, but you don't need to feel like you have to because there is plenty of time for this in your dating life.
OK, about the kissing: To make it more interesting and fun, you want to vary the intensity, tempo and duration of your kisses. Having a clear emotional connection with each other, respect for one another, and a friendship help in feeling the passion of a kiss. You can experiment with closing your eyes and opening them while kissing. Sometimes when two people are kissing and their eyes are open, looking into each other's eyes is very romantic and sexy. You can have exciting non-French kissing, by opening your mouth slightly, gently putting your lips over his, and moving your mouth in a soft circular motion. Ask him to do this with you too. Neither of you should dart your tongues in strong, hard ways into the other's mouth. Go slowly and sensually. You can flick the tips of your tongues together, rotate your tongues in circular motions, take turns leading the kiss, and don't force your tongues down the other person's throat (!). Kissing one another on the neck, cheeks, chin, eyelids is also a very loving and sensuous way to kiss. Bottom line is that this is a TWO way thing and you guys need to experiment with it so that you're getting pleasure as well. If you have to take the lead, then do, so he can then hopefully follow by doing some of the same things you did to him with your kisses. If he doesn't, then ask him to do so.
Again, I don't mean to sound like I'm lecturing you, but please be careful with all of this. Even really sensual kissing can lead to things you might not have planned. Dry sex can lead to regular sex before you know it. If you guys are already doing this stuff, then there's probably nothing I can say to get you to stop, take a look at what you're doing, and re-think the situation. So, since you're already trying this, then please know as much as you can and take precautions. By the way, the site I gave you even recommends that the guy wear a condom during dry sex because of the things that can happen during that kind of sex.
I hope that I've helped you with your questions. And I'm sorry if it seemed confusing because some of what I said surely sounded as though I was trying to convince you out of doing this stuff while at the same time helping you know more how to get pleasure. I have to be honest when I say that I get concerned about teems (assuming you are one) experimenting with any kind of sexual behavior, but since I know it goes on, then I just ask that you're careful. Now, hopefully you'll be able to get a little more pleasure out of what the two of you have already mutually decided is what you want to do.
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