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Hi- my name is taylor and i'm a 14-year- old girl.. my problem is that i'm VERRY shy and its bringing me down. Yeah i have friends and best friends, but not that many. I'm shy to everyone except my really good friends who i hang out with outside school. But in my classes, i don't have any of my really good friends in them except for like one or 2 classes. I hang out with these people that i really want to become friends with but i don't talk to them, just like hang out with them you know? If they tell me something, i just laugh for a sec or say a simple "i know". I hate this and they probalby think i'm boring. Its like i have a really good opportunity to become their friend, but i just can't beat this shyness. I guess i'm afraid that they won't like me for who i am and not want to hang out with me at all- and that i might be weird or annoying.. I used to have a lot of friends that were sort-of popular but then all of a sudden we weren't friends anymore. Now i hang out with some people that used to be my best friends but i can't seem to talk to them at all! And the other people i hang out with are sort-of popular too.. so my question is, how do i beat my shyness and become outgoing so that i can become friends with these people and anyone else in the future? How can i be fun and have people like me- how can i possibly get over this?-- i'm really not looking for a be your self, cause that won't get me anywhere i swear.. any techniques you have?
thanks so much!!- i'm desperate! i wanna be happy
5's to ppl who answer!!
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First of all, if they find you annoying, boring, etc. then they aren't worth being friends with. Just talk to them. Let loose. Everyone has their shy stages, you have to overcome it. It's kind of like a fear, once you start talking to one friend..You'll open up to all of them. Just try and pretend that the person you're talking to is a really good friend of yours, like a bestfriend. Maybe that'll help you open up to them and talk more. Good luck.
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try and start a conversation about something you have in common with them and know everything about; or learn a lot about something you both have in common... after that conversation goes well it could help give you some confidence. or just start out by commenting about something, make fun of someone on tv or say how much you like this kinda music.
If you get really nervous when talking to people it helps to concentrate on breathing in and out, it sounds wierd but it works.
sometimes after talking to someone a few times you just kind of click and conversation can just flow. just try not to be too self concious and try to keep your body relaxed.
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