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ok maybe you will help better then everyone elas. i really like this guy umm... (NICK) and he is omg everytime i see him ergg i swear i feel all weird down there what is happening to my body? and i really wanna talk to him but we haven't tlaked ever. and he always talks to my best friend about me. what should i do please help.
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I do know what is going on for you. What you are experiencing is a chemical reaction called "pheromones". You and Nick are growing up and you have these new chemicals surging through your system call hormones. This is perfectly normal. The problem comes in when people don't understand what is happening and react on this chemical urge. A lot of people take this intense feeling and mistake it for "True Love". This is not what is going on for the most part. You are experiencing an attraction but you must not let this overwhelm you and cloud your reason. Unfortunately people (including adults big time) get caught up in what they perceive as true love when it is really lust. They act upon these chemical urges and then aren't happy with the end result. Have you ever heard people say when he or she breaks up with someone that the person they broke up with just wasn't who they thought they were? This is because the chemical reaction that is taking place clouded perceptions. People see what isn't there and don't see what is there no matter what anyone else tells them while they are under the pheromone influence. When all parties have gotten what they want in the physical sense the pheromones wear off and the clouded perception dissipates. They are then left with reality. They stay together because they remember what they had experienced in the pheromone stage. They hope it can be recaptured somehow. Then all of a sudden they start to hate each other? How can that be if they were really in love? Love is something that takes time to develop between two individuals. You can't simply accomplish it on a first encounter. You can initiate it on the first encounter though. And of course you can meet your true love through this chemical reaction. I'm just saying you need to take the time to truly know someone. And when I tell you this clear mindedness is hard, I MEAN IT IS HARD. You are going to meet all kinds of people on your search for your perfect life partner who will incite this chemical reaction. It is how you handle these encounters that will develop part of who you will become. There has been research done on this phenomenon of pheromones and what researchers have so far focused their attention on is so-called sex attractants like androstenone, a substance found in boar saliva, and "copulins," primate vaginal secretions that supposedly triggered male mating behavior. There also have been studies done on how this same principle is the cause for synchronicity among girlfriends and their menstrual cycles. My whole point to you is that there is a biological cause for what is happening. You have just entered the game and starting to learn about the equipment (your body)you have been given. You aren't even sure how everything works yet. This can be a really fun phenomenon those pheromones. The best part is the flirting, holding hands, talking for long hours on the phone etc. But, during all of this be sure that you keep your head. This is not a sign that you two are meant to be, it is simply a sign that you two are growing up.
I apologize, I didn't finish your question. As far as what you should do...Start Saying Hi to him. Make eye contact with him and smile at him. If it looks as though he is open to a conversation with you..talk to him. But mostly, until you feel comfortable with it, just smile and make eye contact. This lets a guy know that you are interested in him without seeming to come on too strongly. He will get the message. If he's talkig to your best friend, find out from her what they are talking about. What does he spend his time doing? What exactly is he saying about you? Have her call you over sometime when he is with her. I don't understand why she hasn't done that already. She can introduce the two of you and then act like she has something else to do and leave the two of you. Or when you see him sometime simply go up and start a conversation about something that you know he's interested in. But your best bet is to get your girlfriend involved since she is already talking to him. Good Luck!
Namaste
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