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i need some more advice...
Okay since the last advice i got from you i texted him this morning and it was just to say hi and see how he was and joke around for a minute..well tonight i had to text him b/c he got a reminder call for a dr appointment. He got back to me like 1/2 hr later..to say thank you. So i texted him again just to see how he was and if he was ok--he said he was ok and so i said well it seems like you have it made-you got your computer stand and whatever else from your mom and it seems like your happy so if your happy then im happy for you...he never got back to me. so i said well i hope i didnt say something wrong--and he never got back to me--I think he took offense to when i said seems like you got it made--i didnt mean it tosound bad--what do i do? i think he is mad now...ididnt mean to do that
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I am going to give it to you straight and please don't get offended but you really didn't have to text him so much today, you didn't have to say so many things to him and honestly, when he just texted you back to say thank you, he really said all he wanted to say. The hint was that youshould have taken it like he gave it. He didn't text you just to say hello back and he didn't text you after he said thank you concerning his doctors appointment. I know the reason you said what you said concerning himhaving it made...you were feeling rage, hurt, neglected and ignored and ANY rise out of him would have helped you to gauge where he may have been coming from. But silence is a very "loud" hint when it is given in the way he gave it to you. You didn't do anything wrong per say because you are human and love makes us throw caution to the wind and TRUST ME this wont be the only time your heart gets the best of you and you text him again or find some reason to speak with him...but don't beat yourself up over it. What you have to do is try to stop yourself from doing it. When he pops into your mind, CHANGE IT, when you get the urge to talk about him, DON'T DO IT..CHANGE THE SUBJECT, when you get the urge to call him, GET BUSY DOING SOMETHING ELSE.. you are going to have to "fake it until you make it". One day all of this will come as naturally as breathing. I know you are saying "But when??". I know it seems like each day is an ETERNITY but really this is because your every thought, action and want is for him. He is where he wants to be right now, and not to make you nervous but, each moment he is not in your house, you NEVER know what he is doing and if he may be trying to do it with someone else. I had an experience that someone left me..they needed "space" it wasn;t me, it was him...type of deal. So he went about his business and I was just like you...I WANTED him back badly. But after a while I began to get suspicious and wondered why he hadn't come back..he had a lot of time to "get it right within himself". Come to find out (making a long story short) a few years had passed and we began to talk again only as friends and he confessed to me that I made it easy for him to do whatever he wanted because Iwas like "old reliable". If things didn't work out with his other girl while we were taking "time and space" away, he knew that all he had to do was tell me alittle something and I was so in love withhim that I would have taken him back. I was alittle mad but I was glad he told me for inthe back of my mind I knew that but during the time,I just didn;t want to accept that or move on. See, you can't always be around, you ahve to let him find you sometimes..if he wants to at all. You will know soon enough but trust me, if he does come backand youtake him backand get married, once you adn he are comfortable, you will one day be mad over how this all went down and you will speak on it to him, probably when he gets you angry enough. Don't worry if he is mad now, you should be worrying about how to make yourself whole. You can never truely have a healthy relationship with anyone until you have one with yourself. When you ahve a true relationship and love affair with yourself, then you can extend your hand to bring someone into your world. Another person shouldn't complete you, you should already be your own masterpiece. We share relationships, we don't look for one to make our puzzle complete. Get to know you, get to love you more, then you can fully know what it is to lve someone completely and without feeling like you need them to make your world better. It is always better for someone to want to be with you instead of them needing to for when they can stand on their own two feet, they wont need you anymore. He shouldn't know or feel like you NEED him, being wanted is a more fulfilling and satifying feeling. Many men also don;t like to feel as if their woman needs them, they like the feeling of being wanted as well. Don't call anymore tonight and try not tomorrow. Cry if you have to, do anything else but don't call him. Give it a minute. If he doesn't call you, then you need to follow his lead for a while. If I don't answer back tonight, it is just that I am alittle under the weather but I will stay on for a while longer for you. If not, I will definetly write you tomorrow at work during my break. Keep your head up, Girl, you will make it...TRUST ME!!!
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