|
there's this guy that i really like and i'm petrified to tell him what i think. i know that you'll probably tell me to tell him the way that i feel but i don't want to ruin our really good friendship and i'm afrad taht he'll reject me. i'm so confused
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I understand that it isn't an easy thing to tell your feelings to someone. But, your two options are to either tell him, so that he'll know, and you'll know what he thinks about it, or to either just step back and stay his friend until you are no longer afraid or until he says something later. I know that you are aware of these options, but it sounds like you'll be sticking with the second one because you're scared. And, honestly, I think that if you told him in a letter, an E-mail, over the phone, or to his face, it would make you feel stronger of a person to share your feelings. Everyone is afraid of rejection, but, if hes a true guy friend, and you both have a great friendship, don't you think that maybe it will be easier to handle if hes nice enough to tell you hes not feeling the same thing as you are? And, if he were to be rude, and laugh at you, and tell his friends and be a jerk about it, I think that reveals his feelings on your friendship he has with you. You don't have to tell him, but I'm saying that it can't be too bad when you have a bond with him, and if he ends up rejecting you, then it happens, I know the friendship will be akward to start up again, but it's about what you want to do. If you want to take a chance to tell him and possibly ruin a friendship, take the chance and tell him somehow, but if you're just too scared to be rejected, and too scared to ruin things, then you can do that too. But everyone gets afraid of rejection, and its only better to get rid of that fear than to hide from it all. Feel free to reply if you need more help.
-TheTeenGirl
]
[ ♥ ] Hey sweetheart.
Thats really tough. I know how you feel. Its extremely hard to just go out & tell him how you feel. So I guess you just might have to do it the easy way, which would be..
On AIM. Or in a note possibly. Ask one of his friends casually. I mean this is a tough question, and there really isnt something you can do that can automatically make him feel the same.
If he does, then thats awesome. BUT, if he doesnt you just have to keep having him as a friend & see where it goes.
inbox me anytime. Good luck! & IM me & tell me how it goes. ♥
]
More Questions: |