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Hardcore?
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 months but have been friends for 5 years. Even though were young weve been discusing marriage because of the amazing bond we have. Just recently we started having sex. I wouldnt know any other kind of sex but to me it seems really hardcore and more about the sex than the love. Weve never done any oral, but he told me this morning before he went to his am classes that when he comes home he is going to give me the best sex I ever had. He left a note saying this along with little clues about "tonight". This has really been grossing me out and concerning me because he said ... "My fingers will be up there along with my tongue,baby"!!! I dont now whatt to do because Im still new to te sex scene and those words coming fom him shock me!!
HELP!!
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Tell him what you think. Don't be afraid. It's funny how when you go out you act all different. If he really loves you he will understand that you are new to this and you want to slow things down a bit.
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If you feel comfortable discussing marriage with this guy then you should feel comfortable discussing sex. Just ask him what's up. I mean, I know when I talk about sex with my boyfriend I'm alot different than my normal self but if he says something that grosses me out or makes me feel uncomfortable then I can just tell him about it. It will most likely make you guys closer. Just ask him what's going on. Good luck!
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hey... i bet you really like this guy... and he really likes you..and he wants to make you feel good..but you guys have had sex so maybe you should try it, you dont have to if you dont want to but from my expierence its amazing haha, you could tell him you dont want to go that far and just let him finger you, or whatever you want to do. good luck and let me know what happens! lol
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Talk to him about it. He seems like an okay enough guy. If he does not want to be with you or pressures you into doing things that you don't want to, he is not worth dating. Tell him that you want to slow things down a little and everything else that is on your mind. You shouldn't have to do anything you don't want to and you will end up deeply regretting it later on.
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I know that it sounds harsh to have to turn him down, but you truly have to tell him that its getting a little intense for you. And it doesn't mean that you don't appreciate his effort to make things greater for you and him, you just aren't ready for that level yet, and you have to tell him this, because for the obvious reason, it won't be enjoyable if you go through with it, and for another, it will make you a stronger person. If you learn to tell your boyfriend what bothers you, and what makes you uncomfortable, then you won't have to sit and worry jumping up and down about a situation where the truth needs to come out. Along with telling him your discomfort, tell him your concern about the sex happening more than the romance, I know it seems hard telling him these things, but just remember why you shouldn't go through with it, and why its only the best for you and him. Make your bond stronger by discussing your feelings, I promise you, that you will feel a lot better.
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If it's making you uncomfortable (and I'd say that 'grossing you out' is pretty darned uncomfortable) then don't do it. This is your body! You have ultimate say in what goes in with your body! Ask him to be more specific about what he's wanting to do. If he won't, then saying no is definitely an option to consider.
It doesn't matter if you are discussing marriage and newly sexually active with him or (like me) married and sexually active for a while. If at any time something someone is doing isn't what you want to happen, saying no is always your choice. If he loves you, he'll respect your decision.
Good luck,
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well he sounds like a good guy and u know him well enough so i dont think that him using you is really an issue. Lets just say that from 'expirience' and things Ive heard, sex is getting more and more hardcore and very VERY oral. Fingering is common and so is eating out. He probably really likes you and wants you to expirience this great sex from him because hes your fist. If your discussing marriage then def. dont be afraid!!!
Let me know how that night went!! :D
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