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theres this guy that i really want to ask out but i think that he has a girlfriend and if i ask someone i know that they will tell him that i like him and i dont want him to find out in that way and none of my close friends know. i only see him an hour a week at churchand he doesn't go to my school and thats not enough time to spend with him. but im too afraid to ask him if he wants to do something outside of church.what should i do? 14/f
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So you're a bit shy, but there's ways around that. Why do you even assume he has a girlfriend, to begin with? Do you SEE him with her? Are they all over each other? If so, they probably ARE together. However, that's a complete and total ASSUMPTION, and you'll never know until you ASK! I realize that you don't want to come right out and question that, but if you aren't willing to make any attempts here... don't expect much to become of it.
"im too afraid to ask him if he wants to do something outside of church."
So, you do talk to him, at least a little bit?? I would think that if he is willing to talk with you, he'd be willing to entertain the idea of a friendship with you; at least test it out, if nothing else. Don'tcha think?
But if you do speak with him during the one hour a week you see him, why not ask him for his screen name? That would be perfectly harmless. And unless he doesn't HAVE a screen name, why would he say no? It's not like you're asking to take him to a movie on Friday night (which, if he had a girlfriend, he might refuse) All you'd be doing is trying to strengthen the friendship between yourself and an acquaintance - who could blame you?? After all, you can never have too many friends - I'm sure he'll know this.
"if i ask someone i know that they will tell him"
If you don't talk to him often, or ever.. would it be safe to say that your statement above means that you talk to someone who talks to HIM? Anyway you can convince them into hanging out with you and bringing your interest along?? Or how about messaging this mutual friend online and saying something like, "Let's make a chatroom. We can both invite people", and just pray that he invites the guy you like. (I dunno.. just another suggestion for ya)
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."
-- Dale Carnegie
But whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck doing it. Don't be afraid to come back to me if you should ever feel the need of a second opinion. :D
♥ Mackenzie ♥
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