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Fingering Help
Okay, I know that I'm probably not even suppose to ask this kind of question on here. But I really need some advice, so hopefully it'll be okay!! Well my boyfriend has tried fingering me like twice and it hasn't been successful yet because everytime when he gets his finger to a certain point, it hurts really badly, so I tell him to stop. I HATE PAIN! Now, I've never wore tampons and I've never fingered my own self. So we both talked about this & we figured out that it's probably my hymen and it hasn't been "stretched" or whatnot yet, so it's hurting and in order for him to finger me properly, he has to stretch my hymen and I have to deal with the pain, correct? Just so you know, he understand that it hurts and he hasn't tried FORCING his fingers in me or anything like that. Also, could me being sort of nervous make my muscles tense up and make it hurt worse? Could another problem be that I'm not wet enough? We both though that I was, but you never know. Anyway, is this really what the problem is.. my hymen? If so.. what can I or HE do to make this experience better and less painful? Thank you!!
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The best I can offer is for you to see a doctor. It really shouldn't hurt that bad. Some are thick though and some even have to be surgically broken (very rare). :)
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ok, the wet enough hypothesis is true if you feel his fingers sticking while he's going inside of you. You would both know if you weren't wet enough and that doesn't sound like the problem.
but now here's my next question... how many fingers is he putting into you? if it's more then one, then there's your problem, if it's only one, then, well u still have a problem but we'll work on that.
i'm assuming he is the first guy to ever do that do you, so obviously your hymen hasn't broken unless you did it to yourself. either he has to stick to stimulating your clit... which in most cases will be able to get you off or he needs to not go as far in.
eventually your hymen will break if it hasn't, it's extremely delicate. There's a good reason why taking a girls virginity is called cherry popping... in most cases any sort of penetration will cause bleeding, so don't panic if that happens.
so my advice, less fingers... not as far in... stimulate the clit... but it's really not far to you if it's painful.
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