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13 and pregnant by a 20 year old but i want to keep the baby
this is so bad. this is so so bad! i had sex with this guy who is 20. im 13. dont think im a bad person please! but anyway, a lot of things "werent right" so i bought a pregnancy test and it came out posative. im in my 2nd trimester right now. im so scared i cant even deal with it. every day i cry and cry! my parents dont know what to make of me! i didnt tell the guy! what do i do? im so scared! i dont want to give her (yea its a girl) up for adoption because ive wanted kids since i was like 6! this is horrible. i could DIE in childbirth because im so young. what do i do? any tips? ANYTHING! im so mofo SCARED!!
anything helps
no smartass answers
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You need to talk to a doctor and sort through your choices. Freaking out is NOT going to help. You also need to talk to your parents, it wasn't very clear if you told them or not. I know you've wanted kids since you were little, but you have plenty of time to have more. I don't think you will die, especially if you seek proper medical care. 13 year olds, sadly, have children all the time. Luckily, most of them don't die. Please seek help for this- you are too young to take this on alone.
I think that the people who keep telling you that this is rape and all of that really need to get their priorities straight. Sure, it's illegal, but does that change what happened? You need to focus on the problem now, and bringing more drama into your life by bringing him back into your life or getting your parents to sue him is not going to help you at all. The last thing a pregnant 13 year old needs is more stress.
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Alright, Hun...okay yes 13 is a young age to have kids to even be sleeping with someone but if your parent's know then tell them since the guy you slept with is 20 and its truley considered rap you would like to press charges so he will have to pay support because you really wanna keep your child even thought its going to be hard with school you don't wana have your child wondering what his/her mother looks like and who she is..just tell your mom how much you will take care of it and love it even if you have to get a babysister or homeschooled you would give anything in this world to keep it (if you truly do wanna keep it) hope I helped you..
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You may not want to give the girl up for adoption, but at your age, you may have to. You are too far into pregnancy to have an abortion, so you are left with 2 legal options. Have the child, or send her for adoption. You can have the child and survive. Just do not do a regular birth. Get the child out through cencarian sections, and you will have a lot easier time.
After that, you have another option. The man who had sex with technically raped you. Yes, it was concentualy, I know. But, if a man over 18 has sex with a girl under 16, it is automatically rape. You can press charges against him, and prove it with the child. He will be forced to support the child, and you'll be able to live your life.
But, I suggest sending him to adoption. It really ends the problems, and you can still parent when you are older. This isn't the end of your parenthood. Just wait, your time will come.
-Steven
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I think that you should tell your parents and the guy that you slept with, and together youll should make a reponsible agreement on wha to do...it is very dangerous and you should think about it..
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