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Hi, I am 24, I have a fiance who I love but had a girl friend before i get engaged who I had thought to get married to and me and her stayed nearly for 5 years in serious relaitionship but then because of her attitude anf family presure I left her but the thing is that I still feel love for her and I am now so confused what to do! I mean my old girlfriend still wants to marry me but then I am also engaged now and my fiance and my family are so eager to me get married soon with my fiance and they are very happy of this thing! so what to do though my family never liked my old girl friend! who should I love and who should I get married to? I am just too broke and confused.
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You are in a bit of a mess!!!
First of all you need to think about what you want but at the same time it might not be the same thing as what your family wants. You have the responsibility of three people: your first girlfriend, your family and your current fiance so the overall decision is going effect all of these people who are apart of your life.
I am assuming that your girlfriend and your family are of different background and culture. This will make all the difference to what you decide for your fate. 5 years is a longtime to spend in a relationship almost as long as most marriages and if you are still CONFUSED! and are not sure about your relationship then maybe your not all that in love as you think??
Your family who you have a strong and close relationship with you, is I take it have a strong hold on you?? if they are unhappy and this matters to you, obviously they will influence your decision also the current fiance who is probably looking forward to a new and happy life with you has the right not to have to share you with anyone else, you need to realise marriage is a big commitment and it is for life. Are you ready for this?? You have the responsibility to be honest and faithful to her its only fair, three's a crowd!
Most of all if you really, really love this girlfriend and want to spend the rest of your life with her, then you need to be honest to your family about it but you also face the obstacle knowing that your family wont approve, so you need to be prepared if they decide to disown you. Question the girlfiend's attitude and intentions towards you and your family. Is she aware of what you are going through, because you have a lot to loose. At the end of the day, you need to decide what will make you happy, its your life not your familys!!! So the decsion is yours my friend!! Good Luck
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