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I am really confused ... 2 boys .. which one?!
ok well first of all, i am 13 and im a girl...ok well i have a boyfriend ((as of about 2 months))and i like him a lot but then there is another boy who i like a lot more and who i have liked a LOT longer... there was a time like a month ago when he told me that he liked me and he came over a few times but he didnt think i liked him so he didnt make a move or ask me out ... and he thought i liked someone else so i think that was part of the problem...but now i have a boyfriend who i really like but i like the other boy a lot more and i feel bad for my boyfriend even though i do still like him a lot ... i just dont feel right still going out with him liking someone else a lot more... and im not sure if the boy that i like more still likes me but he knows that i like him still but knows that i have a boyfriend... so i dont know wether to dump my boyfriend and wait for the guy i like not knowing if he still likes me or to keep going with my boyfriend...
please help!
signed -- lost in love <33
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Ouch, this is a tough situation.
It's good that you recognize that it might not be right to continue going out with your current guy if you have more feelings for someone else. That's kinda stringing him along, and not nice to either of you. You've got a couple of hard decisions to make, and you might not like any of them. There's no easy solution, really.
What I would do, in your shoes, is decide how much you really like this other boy. You said you like him, but do you like him as much as your boyfriend?
It might be easier for you to be single for awhile until you decide what you want. Normally I might say to break it off with the boyfriend and wait for the other guy, but that's your choice. It's chancy, as you don't know whether or not this other guy still likes you.
However, answer these questions:
Are you willing to keep stringing your boyfriend along and making him think you only have eyes for him?
Are you willing to risk being single to get rid of your confusion?
You don't NEED to have a boyfriend (while it is definitely nice - I won't be a hypocrite), and sometimes you're better off single.
But you've got to decide if this other guy is really worth it. Is he worth killing a good relationship, and risking the single life?
Answer those questions first. If the answer to both of those is "yes," break it off with your boy.
Another option you have is to tell the other guy what you're feeling - scratch that, tell BOTH guys what you're feeling and see what they do. Your boyfriend may break it off for you, and this other guy may make a move.
I think I might go with that second option in your shoes, quite honestly. While it does take one heck of a lot of guts, both may respect you more for being honest about your feelings.
But realize if you tell your boyfriend you think you're developing feelings for another guy, he may very well break it off, and you may not be able to do anything about it. You've gotta make some important decisions, answer some important questions, and figure out what you really want.
Rather, WHO you really want.
If you need someone to babble at, my screen name's SirenCytherea and I'm always willing to help.
In the meantime, think some stuff over. Maybe even talk to your mom or dad. They were kids once, and parents are surprisingly good resources. That's where I get most of my "infinite knowledge."
I hope this helps you!
-Siren =)
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