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I'm 14, and a sophmore. I will be 15 soon, I just have a late birthday. I've done stuff with guys like making out and all because all my boyfriends are always older than me. Like almost everyone in my grade has had sex, done drugs, drinks, stuff like that. Well I just got drunk for the first time the other night, and im still a virgin. Everyone is telling me I shouldnt still be a virgin. Like my sisters friend is 19 and he told me that its normal to lose it when your in highschool. I'm so scared to have sex though because what if it hurts, or I get pregnant, stuff like that ya know? I dont know anything about it either, well I do but I dont know any movements and stuff. Theres this guy whose 18 and I have dated him 2 times, we went to prom and everything and he is a really good friend, when I got drunk everyone told me I was saying that I think I love him. I didnt even know I did. We might get back together because he keeps telling everyone he likes me alot. He calls me and everything so yea. If we did go back out and dated for a long time, would it be alright to have sex? And no im not a geek or ugly or anything lol. Just scared of what's going to happen!
Thanx
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You are still young, don't rush into LIFETIME expereiences that may affect the rest of your life. I am 15 and i have already promised my self to wait till marriage. A lot of guys(even though this sounds weird) will respect you for that fact that you remained to stay a virgin until marriage. It shows you have a lot of self control,respect for yourself, and that you are smart. WHO CARES IF EVERYONE in your school is having sex,drugs,alchol. They are going to regret it. As for you, don't start to mess up your future by drinking and getting drunk. As you said "I was saying I think I love him. I didn't even know I did", what if you did something you wouldn't do while you were sober. You would really regret it. And if your boyfriend or this guy that is 18 is wanting to have sex with you, that's stupid. Soon you'll he won't be a minor anymore and it'll be illegal. Trust me just wait...it's worth it.
Good Luck--hope i helped
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im glad you know the risks and everything but is that really what you wanna do? just to say you did it? you said you loved him when you were drunk, i doubt that means you really love him and want to have sex with him. its ok to date him and everything but do yourself a favor, save the drama and just dont it. but hey if thats what you want, then go for it. <3
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Well to tell you the truth SEX HURTS. you think a tampon hurts! but loosing your virginity is very important to some girls. do you really feel like he is the right person to let go of such a personal important thing but if its really not that big of a deal to you i guess you could just let it happen but dont do anything you might regret in the future.. i know my friend is going to regret loosing her virginity to a jerk one night when she was drunk. but its really your decision
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Just because they think it's "normal" doesn't mean it's right for you. Your body may be ready for sex, but you're obviously not ready, and that's perfectly okay. If you date someone for a long time and want to have sex...whatever...that's your choice. It's not up to anyone else to say what's okay for you. Lots of people don't have sex until they are much older. I'm seventeen and I've only kissed once. Everybody is different.
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Well sounds to me people are putting pressure on you to HAVE SEX.. which really you dont have to follow their footsteps.. you should lose your virginity to somebody very special and that means alot to you.. and of course somebody that you ♥ LOVE ♥ .. you shouldnt have sex with some radom person and you probably shouldnt of drank unless you absolutely wanted too.. dont do things just to fit in the crowd.. be different that way you stick out more.. well im going to tell you this sex hurts a lil bit the first time but its probably nothing you cant handle.. and wouldnt you rather somebody that you love to hurt you then some random guy who dont give a shit about you..? im not tryin to tell you to wait til your married cause those arent my beliefs but i do believe in waitin for the right person.. and yes there is always possibilities of gettin pregnant wouldnt you want to have a baby with somebody who loves you..? and who isnt going to drop you in heartbeat..? well thats my advice and i hope you make a good choice.. and always have standards in and a guy that you want to be with dont ever go with some random person.. ♥ Dez
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Honestly, I could go on and on and on and on and on about why you SHOULD NOT HAVE SEX. But please allow me to keep it to a simple NO. You'Re *NOT* a stupid giRl, you KNOW the Risks, and you know that a few nights of pleasuRe aRe NOT woRth the possible consequences. You know the answeR to this; it's a bad idea. Who gives a fuck what otheR people aRe saying oR doing! YOU aRe NOT OTHER PEOPLE.. YOU aRe youR OWN peRson with a heaRt, mind, and body. You have youR ENTIRE life to live; youR ENTIRE life to have sex.. just wait it out. Don't give into pRessuRe, Hun. You shouldn't EVER EVER EVER EVER engage in activies which make you feel uncomfoRtable, and absolutely NOBODY has the Right to foRce you... just use youR head, and think of youR OWN well being heRe... ♥
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