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A fresh start
Alright lets start from the very start.. I used to have very short hair and glasses that made my eyes look bug eyed.. Well last year I got contacts (which I must say has changed my life) and My hair has grown out and is very long (blonde) and my eyes are deep green.. Well lets just say I have not had an easy time. Before I got contacts people would pick on me about my glasses and my hair. Well when I went into 8th grade My hair was long and I had contacts so they didnt have a reason to pick on me but yet.. people still tryd. They called me fat and other things, and Im not fat at all im 5'6 and im 110 pounds.. I dont call that fat! but I believed them and thanks to them I have been stuck with eating disorders on and off sense.. But I am trying my best to stay away from eating dissorders and I have been good for about a month now. I did have bfs but i also had boy troubles.. none of my relation ships last long. the longest was a monnth. now I am going into highschool and I want to be noticed and i would like to not be picked on as much. I think it would also really be nice to find a guy that I could be with for atleast a while.. and make alot of guy friends. I dont have that many guy friends because I am very guy shy. and it seems guys like to use me alot.. Like just the other day I was at my guy friends house and he kept wanting to do stuff with me.. I reegret going over because if I am going to be sexual active at all I would like to be in a relation ship with someone I really think I like alot or more. Well sense I am going into highschool id like to have a fresh start! and Id liek to make alot more guy friends that could possibly lead to a good relation ship.. Do you have any advice on how I could not be shy.. or anything?
Love maddie
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Hey there Maddie. =)
Good news: Guys are much better at high school. On a whole they're a lot more mature and intelligent.
Relationships at your age never last very long. Don't count on that changing, either. It's the same for everyone. Since you're growing up, you're constantly changing, so the person you thought you liked you suddenly find yourself NOT liking.
As for starting high school, don't try too hard or come across as eager. Just play it cool, and be friendly and approachable to people. Remember that everyone else is probably as nervous as you. Don't listen to what anyone ever says about your appearance. You will never please everyone, and even who are movie-stars now say they got teased at school! So people will always find something to pick on. Don't take it to heart; or let it get under your skin. I got picked on as well, and I learned that what bullies feed off is reaction. If you don't show it gets to you, they won't do it. Try and avoid situations where you could be prone to be picked on - make sure to always be surrounded by people. You really sound lovely, so I'm sure that being picked on won't be a problem!
As for guy friends, don't be scared of guys. Treat them exactly as you would your female friends. Often you'll find guys can make better friends than girls.
Don't ever be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do with guys. Sex is a choice that only you SHOULD make when YOU feel ready. It should be meaningful and only done with someone whom you've been with a long time and care deeply for. You may/may not find this person in high school.
Starting high school can be scary, but you'll settle in soon enough. LEt me know how it goes!
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