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how to pick cont.
thanks for your advice... i know... its my choice.. but im just confused... my 2 ex/bfs... they are great, and they are the only "friends" who really believed me at first... and the one was HIS friend( his name is chris). I guess why im so... afraid of going out with one of my ex's, is because they know me... the real me... and im deathly afraid of people seeing who i really am now. the one (matt), can see thru me... like if i "act" like im okay, he knows im not... and the other one(chris)... well... hes amazing... everything i could ever imagine... and i know what your probably thinking... why do i even need your help then. well... did you ever feel like you werent "good enough"... or not even that... that he deserves better... i feel like i hold him down... because lately all i've done is sit inside, and cry... i've been a mess lately... and chris calls me every day to see if im okay, and he showed up at my house one day ( he lives 1hr away from me) just to say hi, and he bought me flowers... which just so happened to be the week after all that happened with my ex. so now its a month later, and i havent heard anything from anyone... besides the guys who "like" me. see chris never said he still liked me... i just like him, and im afraid if i mention anything, hes going to be like, im a friend, thats it... you know? and i dont no... i dont wanna hurt any of them... see... there that comes up again... cus i dont no if im ready for a relationship...
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You basically just answered your own question right when you said: "cus i dont no if im ready for a relationship... ". If you don't know if you're ready for relationship yet, then you're clearly not. This seemed to have been just recent and getting right back into a relationship is going to be very hard at this point. You really need to start spending time with your girlfriends, hanging out, partying, having FUN. That's what you need right now, not a relationship. Give it a few months... I know that seems like a long time but it should be just enough to get your mind off of things for a while until you know for sure that you're ready to go back and start dating again. You don't need to be putting yourself through the stress of all that just yet. They both seem like really great guys. But boys is not something you really should be concentrating on right now. You need time to yourself, to get yourself as close to normal as you can get. Once that happens then you can start thinking about dating again. This doesn't mean you can't talk to them, you can still talk to them and be friends with them. And maybe, the time to yourself and just talking to them as friends will help you figure out a little bit more who you really like and who you'd like to be with you. You have to take it easy right now. You will be okay though =) If you need anything else, you know what to do =)
-Emily
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