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help, i dont know what to do
My serious boyfriend and i have been dating for three years. we have never had sex, but really want to. i have no clue what to do? is there something i can do to make him like it - and how do we even start, it seems like a really stupid question, but i am serious. please help! 18/f
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Well, fiRst of all, you'Re 18... and I know you'Re not a baby, and you aRe peRfectly capable of making up youR own mind, so this is not a lectuRe... but just make *absolutely shoRe you want to go thRough with this!! Soooo many people RegRet theiR fiRst time, so just make shoRe it's something you aRe 100% comfoRtable with. 3 yeaRs is quite a long time, so I'm shoRe you love youR boyfRiend with with all of youR heaRt, but maybe if you look at it this way: you want to "be with" him because you love him.. peRfectly fine. But if you've alReady been togetheR 3 yeaRs.. then he's obviously not going anywheRe, so you shouldn't feel pressuRed oR rushed whatsoeveR.
With THAT being said, if you aRe neRvous, afRaid oR unsuRe, theRe's absolutely *NOTHING wRong with discussing this with him. And you may think it would make things awkwaRd oR ruin the moment oR make you look imatuRe, but it won't; I'm sooo positive of that. Infact, I even *Recommend talking to him about it; let him know how you feel, and find out what *HE'S feeling.. and togetheR you two can decide on an appRopRiate decision.
And how do you staRt?? It's honestly not haRd, DeaR. Just go somewheRe with a Relaxing setting and maybe cuddle up togetheR while watching a movie, sitting infRont of a fiRe place, oR gazing out a window. Just hug and give each otheR little kisses... and it'll eventually lead to the bed. I'm shoRe you know how those things woRk. It kind of just comes natuRal. Like a fiRst kiss, ya know!! EveRyone is afRaid, but you just know when the time is Right, and HOW TO [pRoviding you don't fReak youRself out thinking about it foR too long].
I'm soRRie if this wasn't what you wanted to heaR. I'f you'd like anotheR second opinion, you know you can *ALWAYS ALWAYS come to me. Feel fRee to leave one in my inbox, oR get ahold of me on: *AIM*: SiMPLYxGiRL
Take caRe, and be so so safe!! :)
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