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How to Help the Helpless >.<
(it's long but it's necessary)
One of my closest friends has really low self-esteem and is often depressed. His mom is no help at all. She's a psycho Christian control freak; the kind of person who desperately needs therapy but goes, "Oh I don't believe in therapy because I have God." My friend's dad was sentenced to jail for rape when he was young, so his mom won't let him near girls (and I'm a girl=FRUSTATION), even though he has a girlfriend. She put him on anti-depressents which screw him up even worse. He was on one and now he's on another instead, neither of them work, they make him suicidal. He hates himself with a passion and nothing I or anyone else say makes a difference. He thinks he's worthless and that he's going to become a bum. He thinks very short term, he says he doesn't care about anything (which is so not not true), and he pouts all the time. I want to help him but I don't know how - HELP!
(P.S. I'm 14 and he's gonna turn 16 soon)
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That mom is crazy. I'm a Christian and I go to therapy. God provides stuff like that for us. She's a moron for not knowing that. Your friend needs to get away from her and get into therapy where he can be helped.
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i belive he needs to get out of that house and naybe call cps and have him examend. it sounds like this kid is not verry out going and needs to stand up to the man (in this case his mother). if he freaks out on his mom and tells her stright up whats going on and how she is driving him insane one of two things can happen she can understand and start to chill out little by little or she can freak out and call the cops or somthing. but he needs to do somthing hisself or he will be walked all over for life
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he could have dependent personality disorder... I have it...and it makes the person diagnosed seem like they are always depressed ... even though they're not...
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Well i rekon the best thing to do is try to talk to his psyco mum who is normally the one who you need the most when your going through this. Make him enjoy his life and make him feel speicial by splashing out on him and doing things with him that he likes he is sure to realise a best friend like you is worth living for Good Luck x
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Hi, to help him I think you should talk to him, make him see what a passionate and important person he really is. Not just on the outside but also on the inside. Also, pray for him and keep being such a good friend to him.
PS: if you ever need help again go to my column, I'm turning 14 in July and I know how you feel.
Taniqua's-teen-advice
Illinois, 13
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go to your doctor on your own and ask about him say his problems and everything what u just said above! see what the doctor says they have councilors and stuff there, if they want him to go along try and take him along if you can and see if they can help him out! good luck hun xXx
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