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Okay, He's 17, I'm 14, I really really REALLY like him and have known him for about 5-7 years. Family freinds, tight. whatever. ANd he knows I like him and he's said a bunch of times that he like's me as much, we were valentine's, have plans on "hooking up", and then I asked him what our relationship was, and he says "friends with benefits" and I was hurt by it, just because freinds with benfits sounds like he doesn't care about me as much as I do him, even though he's said it. I know age is a thing to get over, but it's not that bad. When he's 18 it'll be differnt. And he and I live in different towns, like 30 minutes away, and see eachother on vacations and what not. Distane and age is not an issue for me at all. But it is for him. And I don't know what to do, because I really like him, and can't figure out what he wants from me. Any adivce?
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From experience, i dont think friends with benefits is such a great idea. It's another way of saying that he wants to mess around with you, but doesnt want any attatched emotions. I think that in order to have a physical relationship with someone, you should have feelings for them. So basically he is using you for your body if he only wants to be friends with benefits. To have a relationship, two people need to be involved and need to make sacrafices. It seems like you're doing your part, but he isnt. So instead of handing your heart to this boy, who is just going to throw it on the floor and stomp all over it, you should avoid trying to go out of your way to make a relationship work. I can already tell he's going to end up hurting you. If he TRUELY liked you as much as he says he does, he would try to make things work. And he would want to pursue a relationship with you, not just try to "hook up." But as lame as this sounds, follow your heart. Do what you feel is best. But my advice would be to just remain as friends. And find someone who is going to go out of their way to see you and will make you the happiest girl in the world. :)
♥ Hannah
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