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i feel like i'm losing my best friend to my other best friend. does that make sense? probably not, but i'll try to explain. my best friend is awsome, we've been best friend for as long as i can remember, but i'm starting to feel that we're growing apart. she doesnt like a lot fo the things i do, she doesnt like that i have a bf that i spend a lot of my time with, and she doesnt like how i live my life. my other best friend is alomst the exact same as her. what do i do? i dont want to lose either of them, but i feel liek i'm going to unless i change my ways.
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Not to be cold-hearted, but get used to change. Life is full of it. I'm not saying you should just leave your friends or not care about them anymore, but people grow apart and you have to accept that. The most you can do is try to become closer again, and if she doesn't want that then there is nothing you can do. As for not losing her, you can try spending a little less time with your bf and more time with her. Don't ditch your bf, but call your best friend up and ask her to hang out. As for not liking how you live your life, what can you do about it? You have to be more specific... how do you live your life and what does she not like about it? If it's something that you really can't or don't want to fix, then tell her how you feel, and say, "Listen, I can't change who I am, but I don't want to lose a great friend like you. Please like me for who I am." Or something along those lines. Same with your other friend. If they can't accept that, then you know what you have to do. Unless you seriously have no other friends (which isn't good anyway) and you would be depressed (literally) without these two best friends. If these are true then you will just have to sacrifice your true self and force yourself to act and live as your best friends want. If worse comes to worse, which is more important to you: Your life or your 2 friends? (Yes, I know friends are part of your life, but I mean the rest of your life including your family, your boyfriend, how you act, and how you personally approach everyday events.) Hope I helped!
~Meags
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