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Going to a church I don't like
I have hated my church since I started going there. I want to go to a church where I know people and they go to my school but my mom and dad thinks its a good idea to go to church as a family. I love God and all but since their like dragging me to go I go in a bad attitude and they say thats why I can't make any friends. Is this true? and how can I like the church I'm going to?
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Wow. This is my story re-told. I wish I could help you more, but I'll do my best. You see, I'm struggling with the same thing. My parents love our church, Clearview. But, I can't stand it. I am not accepted because I don't go to CCMS, I'm not 'into' boys the same way they are, and I'm serious about my studying the Scriptures. I am teased, ridiculed, and - most of all - an outcast. Mind you, I've come to love this role, but it's not fun at times. I have (seriously) one friend and one acquaintance at my church. My one friend is a guy. And, the sad part is, my church has guys and girls separated for everything except Wednesday night worship. So, when I do see him, we don't get to talk, and he's not 'there' part of the time because he plays in the band. My acquaintance is female, and our only common bond is the fact that neither of us can stand our Sunday school teacher. (We're in the same girls Sunday school class) my Sunday school teacher knows almost nothing about the Bible; she must read it from the lesson book. Pretty pathetic, huh? The girls in my Sunday school class are very dim-witted as well. Not that I make perfect grades or anything, but most of the girls in my class have a C- average. I think it's pretty pathetic when the girls that are leaving middle school (or are already in high school) don't know what the Rapture is. Ok, ok. I admit. I'm a geek about this. I love the Rapture. I can't wait for it to come. I love reading Joel, Hosea, Revelation, Daniel.. and fictional books based on the prophecies! Oh, the bliss! Left Behind: The Series by Tim LaHaye and Jerry B. Jenkins! The Revelations, Babylon Rising.. all wonderful! Nothing compared to the Bible, but, still awesome! Fictional books will put what is in the Bible into more simplistic and entertaining words so that you're encouraged to look up the passages. So, you can understand why I was a little shocked when those girls went, "HUH? What's a Rapture?".
Ok, now to your story. I wish I could help you more, I really do. I'm struggling with my Sunday school teacher right now. I want to hate her. ( Lol..) but I can't. I'm praying that God will help me to love her. I don't think there's a way that you can "make yourself" like your church, or even love it. All you can do is endure it. I've been going to Clearview for about four years. To tell the truth, I've learned nothing except that some people are so stupid about the stupid things. Who would have thought that just because I am homeschooled they wouldn't accept me? Of course, there are other things. For instance, I am not "boy crazy". Sure, there is a guy that I like. Sadly, he doesn't go to my church (and I don't blame him, either.) but I'm not infatuated by any 'hott' guy. Because, 1) what is a 'hott' guy? Isn't that a matter of opinion? I mean, maybe I thought that a dead rat was soo cute, but you thought it was disgusting. Neither opinion is factual, it would only be opinion. Thus, how can there be a 'hott' guy? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm also serious about studying God's word. You know in John 2 where the Wedding Banquet is described? Well, for one Sunday my class was supposed to 'write an article to the editor of the newspaper' about the wedding. We were on 'teams' and the other girl who wrote the article ... well, it was something like this: "There was a wedding party! It was the top of the town, y'all! Some of them people who came got drunk and acted like pinheads, some of them were stoned, and this party was off the roof! " Ok, that's really stupid in my opinion because... good grief! This is the account of Jesus' first miracle! It's supposed to be serious. I wrote several paragraphs about the wedding banquet. I hate to say it, but I think that everyone was bored. They liked the other person's account better.
Talk to your Youth pastor and maybe your Pastor. I talked to mine, and it didn't help. But I talked to them! Explain to your mom and dad what you don't like about your church and ask to visit another church. I asked this very question, and the Sunday after Christmas, I went to a friends church. I enjoyed it, but my mom is content where we are... so... we're not leaving. Pray about it. A solid church family is important. Yes, it's possible to live and grow without one, because I have done this. However, I'm privileged enough to have awesome friends who help me in my walk (without knowing it, sometimes) and I go to a Community Bible Study where I can grow and walk in my faith. I wish that I could say that I have a good church, but that'd be lying. We're the same. Pretty cool, huh? Too bad we're the same. It smurfs. All I can say is be honest with your mom, talk to your Youth pastor and maybe your Pastor, pray about it, andâ?¦ if all else fails, go goth. (HA HA HA!) You see, everyone (except my one friend) think I'm goth or kindof ... strange. I admit and confess to the second one, but I'm not goth. Yes, I do wear black frequently, high tops, and rubber bands... but I'm not goth. My newest 'thing' is electrical tape. It's awesome. If you can be 'scary' enough at your church, no one will bother you. It also helps if you don't talk. I love staring at the wall, never making eye contact or looking at people's faces. Pick a spot on the wall and watch it as if your life depended on it. It gets a little creepy after a while. (Which would be the point.) But, I'm a nice person. (Or I hope so) I do Drama, I praise the Lord. I take Sign Language from an adult in my church; I paint backdrops for children's musicals. I'm not goth. I may look that way, but it's only for appearances. There's a guy in my church, and I don't know him very well at all, but he used to be (maybe still is.. I don't know him at all) the same as I am. He never looked completely and totally happy (but he WAS happy, just in a way that I couldn't understand. I understand it now... 'cause I have it too), and always wore black. He had one friend who was equally weird as he. I have to admit; I was intimidated by him as a sixth grader. Now, I'm older, and he's actually really cool. I don't know him though. I don't walk up to guys and proclaim them my friend. Some girls can do that, but not me.
Try and make some new friends. Friends always help the situation. If you're in the same sticky mess as I am, nobody likes you... we can sing 'the song' together! Ready? 1, 2, 3, GO!
Nobody likes me! Everybody hates me! I guess I'll go eat worms! Nobody likes me! Everybody hates me! I guess I'll go eat worms!
Ha ha. Don't you love it? Ok, I know this couldn't have been very helpful.. kindof a waste of your life. Hmm... oh well. * shrugs * I hope things get better for you!! Yet, this is the millionth time I've said it, and it is still my best advice for you: Talk to God, talk to your mom, talk to your Youth pastor. In that order.
Much love in Christ,
-FunnyCide
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