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how do you boost your self-esteem? mainly about your body image. i've been having a lot of trouble with my body image =\, and i don't know what to do. whenever i eat i regret eating. when i pinch my stomach i have about 3 inches of fat (and thats standing up!).. i'm 5'7 and 115 pounds if that matters...
thanx in advance.
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Hi there,
5'7 and 115 pounds ... girl you definatley have nothing to worry about. In fact I would think you even have room to gain some meat on those bones. Just an idea ... I am 5'5 and weigh 115 pounds and am even still on the lower side of average!
As females we all seem to base our self worth on the size of our stomach. I don't think any of us escapes this to a lesser or greater extent. This creates much unhappiness, for we're constantly unhappy with our self image. Pick out 50 girls from your school year book, and I gaurantee you 49 of them will admit to wishing something different about themselves. Knowing this, do you see the inefficiencies of your friends ... probably not, your probably focused on what they bring to the relationship, the content they add to your life ... and I promise you, you give this back to your friends and family. I too went through a period of insecurity and still get insecure every now and then. Hey even J Lo and Angelina Joline have their insecurities ... the difference is, they've opted for a job where they have to constantly monitor their appearance so that they appeal to their audience. I bet you, this causes them much stress on a personal level. Is life worth that? I don't think so. Take a moment and think of all the things that truly do make you happy? Friends, writing, sports, water, travel, reading ... whatever it may be, schedule these activities in on a daily basis and prioritize them as importantly as you do your homework (or your current boyfriend) ... you'll find your quality of life increasing. When your happy, it shows and shines more than does physical appearance.
Another trick I use ... I hate presentations and when I was in university there were a tonne of them!!!! If I was to go up midway through the class, I'd see how others were just as nervous as I ... if you really observe you can notice this ... and to a certain extent, this made me feel better. Because yes, I wasn't the only one nervous!!!!!!! Then I would pay attention to what worked for the ones who did an absolutely great job and try to emulate (pretend your that person just for the five to twenty minutes your onstage whether it be for a presentation, an interview, or a social situation your afraid of).
You have to believe in yourself, you really do. If you start now it will come with time. It won't happen over night, but trust me, self confidence does come with experience and time!
Sorry I went of on a tangent of self image, but I must address your regret about eating ...Please do not regret eating ... in fact eating is one of the joys of living ... look forward to eating ... eat what you enjoy but in moderation and keep physical activity part of your life even if it's just walking, swimming, skiing, rollerskatting, whatever it is you really enjoy (don't go to the gym if it doesn't interest you! Doesn't last, trust me!)
All in all, I honestly do not think you have to worry being fat, but I do worry that your obsessed about it so please if I can do anything else to help, don't hesitate to e-mail me ...
aly_boschee@yahoo.com.
I hope you have a terrific week and wish you well and lots of happiness and good fortune!
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